Guest Blog Testimonial on 30 Day Mind Challenge

Hello, my Name is Judy Lee Thurber and I completed Dr. Bill 30 Day Mind Challenge.

"In one month my mind script changed. My thoughts have changed for the good. I am changed for the better. I finally feel like I can take in a breath of air."

Before working with the 30-Day Challenge, I could tell that I had internal roadblocks and barriers to the good stuff in life ... like having a healthy body, fulfilling peaceful relationships, a calm mind and feeling of purpose in my soul. I wanted those things like a drowning person wants air but didn't feel allowed to deserve it. I understood that I felt like I didn't deserve these things or that I wasn't worthy, and that's why they never manifested in my life no matter how hard I would try.

The problem was that I didn't know how to actually make this change. I could see where I was ... didn't know the root of it … and I could see where I wanted to be. I could not figure out how to get from Point A to Point B. I even thought God had deserted me because no amount of prayer was making a difference.

However, that prayer was answered ... in the form of Dr. Bill Tollefson and this 30 Day Mind Challenge. When I started to understand the consequences of the abuse from my childhood, I realized that I truly had no foundation to my life. Everything on which I had built my life was nothing but rubble. Well-meaning friends would tell me to just put it behind me and move on. They would remind me that I was smart and full of faith - surely I could deal with making these changes. They would tell me that I just needed to use a little more will power and discipline. The more I tried, the further I went away from it, the more I failed, and the more disheartened I became. I continuously wondered what was wrong with me.

The 30 Day Challenge gave me the tools for creating a new foundation ... block by block. When I looked back on the negative core beliefs and core expectations I had, it is truly amazing that I even accomplished anything in my life. Surprising I survived at all. Now with this step-by-step product for creating new core beliefs, core values and core expectations, I built a new foundation for a new life that I choose, I created, which now serves my goals and brings me closer to my dreams. I am now able to accept the tools for creating a healthy body, fulfilling relationships, a calm and productive mind, and a feeling of purpose and self-love in my heart.

The proof is in the pudding ... my two teenage sons actually choose to spend time with me now. We get along with each other and have fun together. I now know that God never deserted me. I just needed to reach out and embrace the tools He was giving me and put them to use in my life. I truly have a life filled with Love and Gratitude now.

"Thanks Dr. Bill for giving me a product that showed me how to get me back. You are truly a Positive Mind Architect." - Judy Lee

If you need help rewriting your mind script in order to remove negative, self- limiting and self-sabotaging thinking from destroying your ability to get what you want out of life then visit my website home page at: http://www.MakingaPositiveChange.com  and download your FREE eBook today.

Also take the FREE mini mind challenge to see if you are a candidate for the 30 Day Challenge which will assist you in rewriting your mind script in ONE MONTH.

                         

4 Tips on Hacking Your Mind for Positive Results

What are you saying to yourself?

You are probably experiencing negative thinking on a daily basis. Some days it is mild and on other days it is more severe. Is your negative thinking limiting you?

Most negative thinking is an attempt block or avoid negative thinking by initiating “if only thinking”. If only thinking is an attempt to project into the future and stay out of your present. You start in this style of thinking to avoid having to make decisions in the moment. Otherwise meaning this type of thinking is an advance way of second guessing yourself and what is happening in your life. An advantage of if only thinking is that it keeps you out of the moment, away from negative thoughts, stops your feelings and gets you into the future.

What is “If Only Thinking”?

To help you understand better and become more mindful of such thinking, here is a definition. Basically the definition “if only thinking” is thinking that projects you into the future where you will get something or someone you want (because you are not getting it now) and produce an action (happiness, fulfillment or success).

So how does “if only thinking” work in your mind

Say you are in a situation, relationship or job where you are not getting you what you want and possibly unhappy. You have to make a decision of what you want, to do or feel. To avoid it you make a false intention to yourself, like “if I only would get X (could be something or someone) then I would be the happiest person in the world.” You work very hard to get that something or someone in your life.  You actually do work hard and get X. Once you get X you find out that it does not automatically change your situation, your feelings, your behavior or situation. You realize is nothing changed like you expected. At the same time you are told by someone close to you, “well you are so lucky that you got X, you should be the happiest you have ever been?” Inside yourself, you know the answer is “No, I am not”.

At that point your “if only thinking” kicks in again and your mind feeds you another false proposition, if you got Y, then you would attain the real answer. Now you really over expect and quietly bet on Y being the answer. Once more you work very hard to achieve Y, and you do achieve Y. But again you discover Y does not fulfill your inner need or expectation.

Since Y is not the answer and extreme disappointed sets in. Your mind then searches wildly into a possible future scenario. Amazingly your mind comes up with another false scheme. Suddenly you know that X and Y were not the real answer but now, for sure, Z is what will make you will make you content, peaceful, gratified and prosperous. You put in all the effort you can muster up and accomplish Z. The result is having Z is still not your answer. You remain unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled.

Without answer your mind consequently continues on and on in this type of diluted thinking cycle. Meanwhile you are totally losing and missing what is in front of you in the moment.

What if you could hack into your thoughts?

Hacking is the art of being able to break into something. For the purpose of this article Hacking is the skill of breaking into your thinking source code.

4 Tips on Hacking your Mind for Positive Results

Is it possible? Yes it is. In order to hack into your own thoughts first you need to stop doing what you are doing. Get in a comfortable position and take two deep breaths (all the way in and exhale completely). By stopping all distractions you will be able to increase your ability to focus and get into harmony with your thoughts. As long as you are inattentive to your thoughts, taking your thoughts for granted and as the truth, then you cannot help but be swallowed up by the diluted thinking that your answers are in the future and not in the moment.

1. Create a new mindset

Do not take your thoughts for granted or believe that you are powerless to change them. 

You have the ability to change your thoughts once you know if the focus of your thoughts are mainly centered on your past, your moment or your future. The most power way to change your thoughts is to change your mindset.

2. Don't invest into false possibilities

Don't be swayed into a false beliefs or untrue possibilities which cause you to over expect. 99% of all predicting thoughts of what you think might happen in the future (good or bad) do not come true. You're predicting thoughts are not true reflection of what will happen in the future and the positive outcomes you want.

The best way to hack into your own thinking and not coming swayed by this type of thinking is to not take your thinking personally. Once you are depersonalized from your thinking you can be more efficient in hacking and changing your thinking. You do this by imagining you are viewing your thinking by being another person looking in on your own mind. “If only thinking” can be so real, enticing and alluring that you get into a false sense of excitement, possibility and gratification. Unfortunately, none of the promises from this form of thinking ever come true.

3. Be real, not emotionally connected

Now view your thoughts from an impersonal mindset. It will allow you to be able to step back mentally with more objectiveness and less emotional charge tied to your thinking. Once you are less emotionally attached you will reduce the influence your thinking has over you.

Imagine your “if only thinking” has its own body and mind. Pretend this person is talking to you and attempting to convince you “if only you would (buy, feel, do….) then your life would be perfect”. Once you have this objectiveness set up in your mind, then spend a day talking to this person. Guaranteed you will want to completely separate yourself from this person (a.k.a. the thinking) by the end of the day because nothing that this person is saying ever comes true.

“If only thinking” has far less impact on your actions, emotions, mindset or future outcomes than you would like to think. If you do not allow it to have power it won’t. If you're willing to be objective and monitor the content of all your thoughts, you will be able to successfully hack into your thinking, shut down the “if only thinking” and negative thoughts as well as gain clarity of all the good things in life in the moment. Having gratitude for what you have in the moment is always better and healthier than betting on a prediction that will never happen.

4. Gain Mindfulness

Lastly, you should begin the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is being able to stay focused on what is occurring in the moment. Mindfulness is having no judgment, no thoughts and no meaning. It’s simply focusing in the moment.  

Simply focus on the moment. Now is all you truly have. Don’t lose it. Embrace it.  

If you need more help to remove negative or "if only" thinking from destroying your ability to get what you want out of life then visit my website home page at: MakinaPositiveChange.com     

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Tips on 3 Things that Stop Positive Change

  "Don't be a slave to your past but rather the bishop of your 
                  Soul and the architect of your moment." 
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Are you still holding grudges against someone or some situation from your past? 

Understand that holding on to old material, emotions or grudges that are really clogs up your personal energy, mental space and ability to move forward in this coming year.

The general stereotype that has been passed around from generation to generation, is change is impossible. You can't change yourself, the way you feel, the way you think, your life or even rewrite your history if you are holding onto too much old baggage. 

True or False?

It is true you become stuck and unable to move forward if your mind is to busy holding onto the past. But what is not true is that you can't change. Of course you can. It takes willingness, perseverance and readiness. 

In order to change you have to go through a complete reset of your mind. You should start with throwing all your past garbage out of your life. All physical, mental, emotional and spiritual negative energy you have been unknowing holding onto. Stop holding on to all the old stuff that does not serve you. Start from scratch; so, do a general cleaning of internal closet.

If you continue to stockpile your old grudges and not clean out your internal mental closet it may lead to three things:

     1. The endless ruminating and over thinking about past                        situations will produce a constant parade of mental, 
         emotional and behavioral flashbacks. 

     2. You begin to over expect and overestimate leading 
          to endless disappointment.

     3. You have no space to let any new things in that are positive.

Take Away

So it makes sense to clean out your internal mental closet of old grudges, hurts, regrets and resentments that you have been storing for a long time and are running around in your mind. Once you clean out your the closet in your mind, your mind will reset itself. As a result you will realize an increase in energy, mental clarity, increased storage space and more focus.

Start cleaning today!


          Coach Bill

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Performance an Issue Already?

Day 9 

Has the performance on your resolutions begun to diminish already? Are you questioning your commitment?

This questioning of your performance is more normal than not even at this early stage. Creating a discipline fast when you are not use to it is very hard.

Typically when resolutions are set at the dawn of the New Year, the list tends to be a list of many.

Think of this scenario. When you have a long list of resolutions, you, like many people, feel obligated to work on each resolution all at once. Attempting to fulfill a long list of resolutions, even with your high enthusiasm at this point, is a recipe for failure. Why? Let’s say you have four resolutions on your list you want to work on and attain. Now you only have so much limited time and energy. That means that if you work on all four, each resolution gets a 25% of your energy and time. Or in another way you only have a 1 in 4 chance you will complete any of the resolutions on your list. If you have a larger list then your chances are even smaller.

Is this a form of self-sabotage? Or are we looking for an excuse not complete all your resolutions that might have been made in haste under some type of pressure whether from family, friends, society or a learned core belief like “I have to set resolutions each year”?

Check your list and make sure you are not overwhelming yourself. Be sure that you do not have too many for the time and energy you have. Then do a self-examine. Is your commitment to your resolutions that you set sound and realistic?

Solution

It may be time to recalibrate  your goals and focus on one at a time, so that you do not get overwhelmed or give up. 

                 

                                                      

5 Tips on Powerful Self Expectations

Are you experiencing difficulty making changes in your life?

There is an old proverb “curiosity killed the cat.” The meaning of this idiom is that being inquisitive about other people's affairs can often get you into trouble. 

Is that really what gets you in trouble? In reality the answer is no. What really “killed the cat” are the expectations you unrealistically formed about yourself, you won't let go of even though you cannot invest in, you accepted from others or was forced on you.  

What are expectations?

An expectation is a strong belief that something will happen or is likely to happen. An expectation might include an emotional attachment to a prediction of how responsive, successful, or good, you or someone else might be in a situation that has not happened yet.

Expectations are future projections you form, requirements taught to you or future outcomes placed upon you, by others who you have an emotional attachment to. Expectations are desired, looking forward to, projected or wished accomplishments, behaviors, beliefs, loyalties, performance or worth related to future outcomes. Expectations can motivate intentions or rob you of your self-determination.

You create expectations for yourself (“I expect to lose 20 pounds this month.”), others (‘She should know how much I am hurting.”), and situations (“I expect to get that job.”). If they are not fulfilled, expectations can create very deep disappointment.  The degree of disappointment or hurt corresponds to the amount of emotional attachment you formed to your expectations or others connected to those expectations.

5 Tips on Creating Powerful Expectations

1. Get in touch with your expectations.

You are not always aware of the expectations you carry. Sometimes, you are aware of expectations you recently created, but others have been in your subconscious for ages and you are no longer aware of them.

Make a list, best you can, of all the expectations you either want to accomplish or have lived by. By making a list, you accomplish two things:  1) recognition makes them real, and 2) this helps you to organize them.

2. Declutter your expectations.

Now that you have a real list, study it. Determine which ones are yours, which ones came from other people whom you felt you had to obey and complete. Determine which ones you want or could realistically accomplish, and identify which ones are not what you want or were forced upon you (parent’s expectations) from long ago. Decluttering or cutting down your list will help you gain space in your mind. Cross out the expectations you don’t want, do not need to hold onto any longer, have no emotional investment in, or are simply not yours.

3. Emotional Attachment

Take your whittled down list and figure out what level of emotional involvement or attachment you have to each one. It is best to put a numerical value on each, 1 to five or 1 to 10. Actually seeing the numerical values will help you to rank them in order to see the ones you want to accomplish first.

While you are figuring out your involvement in each, determine which expectations have made you disappointed in yourself or someone else. Disappointment can consume a lot of our emotional energy and turn into depression or severe anxiety.

Ask yourself honestly these questions while doing this section:

Is it because you disappointed someone else?

Is it because someone disappointed you?

Is it because you could not control someone else or a situation?

Is it because you didn't reach an intended goal you set for yourself now or long ago?

Are you taking things to personally that you're attempting to accomplish?

Do you create goals out of the emotion of the moment and then procrastinate?

Did you over commit yourself?

Did you say yes to an expectation when you really meant no?

Are you a poor manager of your expectations?

What are the barriers were that stop you from success and how have they contributed to you falling short of your of each expectation?

4. Stop holding on to the old.

The best way to achieve this part is to forgive you. Wipe your mind clean of past expectations by letting go of all your disappointments, self-doubts and resentments toward yourself, someone else or long past situations. Do not use old disappointments or resentments as ammunition to keep yourself down. If you have been carrying tons of unfulfilled expectations, then recognize that there is no need to hold onto them. Create new expectations or reconfigure you old ones to better suit your current state of being, improve your mind code and be happier.

5. Develop an action plan for the future.

Now it is time to make an action plan. So go over your finished expectations list.

Make sure each are what you desire, want, need, or desire and how much emotional sweat you are willing to put into each.

Make sure each expectation is specific and realistic.

Make sure each expectation is measurable

Make sure each one has a timeline or date for completion.

At the associated completion time of each expectation, go back to your #3 and check your measurements to determine:

Have I reach completion of what I wanted?

Do I want to drop this expectation?

Should I extend the time of completion?

Take Away

Remember, it is not curiosity that killed the cat … it was the expectations the cat had on itself that crushed, disappointed or sabotaged its chances for a happy and productive life.

                                               

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2 Tips on Stopping Perfectionism

Perfectionism

Do you keep score in everything you do? If you are like most people, you are always attempting to be perfect, you strive to be in the perfect zone with no exception. You strive for that perfect job, the perfect mate, the perfect house, the perfect day, and the perfect reaction and, lastly being the perfect one, #1. 

Stop living in an unrealistic dream of perfection that is not achievable.

Confession

I have to admit that I too reach for that elusive perfection in my mind, performance and life. I have crumble many times to all the media hype and peer pressure. So I set extremely unreachable goals which sets me up for failure and disappointment when I do not perform or achieve them perfectly. I truly knew in the back of my mind all those goals I set on my list were not achievable in reality. Perfection is really folklore. Perfection is not achievable.

Sometimes perfectionism is an excuse not to do something you desire too much or don't want to do in the first place. 

Perfection Causes

Unfortunately, due to all the variables this concept of perfection is not possible state of life. When you set your sights so high even the smallest disappointment shatters your self-esteem. 

What happens with this concept of perfection is that you over analyze, judge and examine all your efforts, methods and mostly yourself. Instead go through your list of goals and pick one intention you can realistically accomplish in the next 90 days, instead of attempting to do everything perfect. This shift mindset from dividing your energy between many goals  to creating and working on one intention. Put all your energies into positive action, energy, and passion, and focus less on performance disappointment.

Striving for Perfection can cause:

Anxiety
Doubt
Fear
Impatience
Over expecting
Perform issues
Procrastination
Stress
Under assessing yourself
Worry

2 Tips

1. Stop Measuring Yourself to Others

Instead of keeping score of your failures, why don't you work on a running list of all your goals you have to be grateful for. If you do, you will discover that you have so much more to be grateful for.

2. Work on Achieving Mindfulness

You should be the main focus of your mindset and what you are doing in the moment (achieving mindfulness). Instead of focusing backward (the past) or forward (the future) work on achieving the best you can and not attempting to be perfect. Being mindful on your set tasks and work on them one task or goal at a time. 

After Thoughts

Don't allow distractions on what you did not do or what you did wrong but rather focus on putting your plans into action in the moment.

Make a positive change in your life this year. This should be an intention for your.

How? 
30 Day Challenge will help you change your mind script.

How are you doing on those New Year’s Resolutions?

Day 7 of the New Year 2015

I thought I would check on you. How are you doing with the resolutions you set? Keep mindful on your objective. Once you lose your mindfulness you can lose your momentum.

I have been working on an intention I set. I wanted to be healthier in 2015. I found out that I have been dehydrated. I get dehydrated from my coffee consumption, love my coffee, and tending to my gardens and lawn. The Florida sun can be brutal. So I set an intention to drink a gallon of water a day for 30 days. There are many benefits to drinking water not only for your organs, but for your skin and eyes. My inner critic is already picking at me.

Personally I understand what all of you are going through and why keeping resolutions are so hard.

Tips to enhance your chances of being successful

With that in mind keep making your 2015 positive change come true by being:

1) Mindful everyday of your goal.

2) Perform the 1^st step to achieving your resolution in the morning. The later you wait the hard it becomes.

3) Find support from someone else to get daily reminders and keep you focused.

4) Journal about your experiences, what thoughts are going through your mind, feelings, actions you are taking. Members of the website makingapositivechange.com have access to a free, online, private journal. Membership is FREE so take advantage.

5) Keep positive. If you miss a day, it’s OK. Jump back on the horse and get back to your goal. Think about what is stopping you. Here is a little video I put out on mind code and what it is all about. Please check it out, it may just help. http://youtu.be/0dYDON54z_w

I hope that these tips, videos and reading materials will help you on your journey. Let's all work together at these tips to achieve your the goals you have set. Make this a very successful 2015!

       

                                                                            

      

4 Tips on Stopping Negative “If Only Thinking”

Ever thought that if you only had this, or that or someone then your life would be perfect, fulfilled, happy, and peaceful or everything you ever wanted. Well of course you do. 90% of all people do this type of project thinking about his or her life, about future successes or happiness. This type of ineffective thinking causes distorted thinking, disappointment and toxic attachment in order to gain something or attach to someone.  

What is “If Only" Thinking? 

This specific type of thinking, “if only thinking” is mainly directed at “if” only you had this, then you would do or be that. “If only thinking” keeps you stuck because it is based on acquiring someone or something that will give you success, not on your own skill, ability or talents. This type of “if only thinking” also stops you from living the moment, assessing your life or feeling your emotions.

Need to Find the Answer

Here is an example to help you gain perspective and clarity on this form of ineffective and avoidance thinking.

You may think you know that “if I only had X, then I would be sure I would be the most positive and happiest person in the world.” You work very hard to get X, and you get X. As a result of obtaining X you find out that nothing in you or your life has changed. You say to yourself, “I got X, but it was not the answer because I do not feel happy and positive?” You admit is “No, X did not.

Then a thought comes in your head.                                                                                                                          
“Since X was not the answer then it must be Y. If I get Y, then I will be complete and satisfied.” You work very hard to achieve Y.

You achieve Y but discover that it was not the answer either. Suddenly a revelation, “it is Z I absolutely need, because Z will make me fulfilled and prosperous.” You work and accomplish Z, and Z is still not the answer.  

This diluted type of thinking continues on and on in your mind. You move on to A, B then C, etc. and still you do not accomplish or feel what you desire. Nothing is ever good enough. But what "if only thinking" has done is keep you from enjoying your life in the moment.

4 Tips on Calming “If Only Thinking”

First: Stop

To eliminate the influence of this project type of thoughts, stop, ground yourself with a couple deep breaths and then focus on your thoughts and attuned to them. 

As long as you ignore your own thoughts, too disconnected from them and take them for granted, you will perceive them to be your truth. If you allow to be your truth then they become diluted and you cannot help but be swallowed up by their attractiveness. Thinking “if I only would achieve or have the X, I will have everything” can be extremely seductive.

Do not take your thoughts for granted. Know the content you are allowing into your mind. You have the ability to change your thoughts once you know what is going on in your thoughts.

Second: Don't be seduced by false promises

Meaning don't be swayed into a belief or into a course of action that is foolish. 99% of the time it is your thoughts that are not true. The answer or feeling you are seeking will not be there upon completion. The best way to separate yourself is to imagine the “if only thinking” as a separate human who will not stop teasing you, enticing you or won’t stop bothering you. This “if only thinking” is so real, enticing and possible that you get lulled into working hard to achieve an end result that will not work. Unfortunately, none of the promises from this form of thinking ever come true.

Third: Be objective

Now view your thoughts as though they were are coming from that other human. Step back from the imaginary person with the “if only” scenario so you can be more objective and less emotionally tied to the thinking. Stepping back allows you to take it less personally and with less emotional attachment. The best way to achieve objectiveness is to imagine the “if only thinking” as another person who will stop at nothing to influence you and won’t shut up, for example an annoying used car salesman. Imagine that your “if only thinking” has its own body and mind. Pretend this person is talking to you and attempting to convince you “if only you would ... then your life would be perfect.” Once you have this objectiveness set up in your mind, then spend a day talking to this person. Guaranteed you will want to completely separate yourself from this person because nothing that this person says ever comes true.

“If only thinking” has far less impact on your actions, emotions, mindset or future outcomes, as well as on the world, than you would like to think. If you're willing to be objective and watch all your thoughts, you will successfully shut down the “if only thinking” and gain clarity of what is happening in your thinking.

Fourth: Decide to live in the moment

Stop counting on something or someone in the future being the answer to love, your fulfillment, happiness, or success. Once you stop holding onto the past or predicting the future (which is impossible), the faster you can enjoy the present with mindfulness.

The sooner you recognize that “if only thinking” will not help you get what you want any faster and that this form of delusional thinking is not really you. The quicker you make this realization the quicker you will become a much happier, fulfilled, peaceful and a more mindful person. Live in the moment and don’t become trapped in your past or unrealistically reaching aimlessly in the future.

                                                                       
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Happy Holiday Season To Everyone

I want to wish all who follow my blog a Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and a Happy New Year.

I really appreciate all who have followed, read and participated by commenting on my blogs. With all of you this blog would not be as successful as it has been this year - 2014.

2015 will be the year for all to be the authentic you and exist in the moment. The moment is all we have. Cannot fix the past and what has happened, Cannot predict the future. Don't stress you self thinking you do do either. Relax and live in the moment because it will be gone in a second. 

You deserve to be the you that you want to be and create the life you want. Strive to be balanced, fulfilled, happy, and successful in 2015!!!!!

                                  
  MAKE a POSITIVE CHANGE in you starting in the New Year
 

4 Tips on Changing Old Thought Patterns

One of my popular clicked on articles is How to Change Old Patterns of Thinking. This article has been viewed over 13,000 times.  Why? Because people are dissatisfied with how they think and interested in changing them.

So how do you change thought patterns? Well there are four tips to accomplishing a significant change in the way you think and alter old thinking patterns for good.

Tip #1:

Determine the thoughts you would like to embed into your subconscious mind and write down those thoughts on paper. Title your list Positive Life Affirmations or PLA. Examples of some powerful of PLAs you can add to your list are:

You are happy,

You deserve to be healthy,

You are deserving of love,

You are prosperous 

You deserve to be productive 

Create and add any statements of positiveness you would like to be front and center in your conscious stream of thoughts. Keep your list to no more than 10 positive life affirmations during any 30 day period.

Tip #2

Set up a daily schedule on your calendar. Commit to a time every morning, afternoon, after dinner or before bedtime) for thirty (30) days. During each daily scheduled time, read your list 4 times in a row. The most important time is just before you close your eyes to go asleep. Why? Think about it. Most people think of negative things like what went wrong today, what will I face in tomorrow, what I did like today and how do I fix what the mistakes of the day. Their subconscious mind mills over those answers all the time they are asleep and when they awaken they do not want to get out of bed because they are afraid things will go wrong and wrong things happen.

On the other hand if you feed your subconscious mind positive thoughts then your subconscious mind will percolate on those positive thoughts on your list the whole time you asleep and in the morning when you wake up your subconscious mind will look to manifest that positive list and associate with positiveness in your life.

 Tip #3

Repetition is the third key. Practice, practice and practice your list some more. The more you repeat your list the quicker it embeds.

Repetition by someone else or self-repeating is how the old negative thoughts got into your subconscious mind originally. So through practice, the new thoughts will be accepted and replace the old ones. Let’s look at an athlete who wants to win gold and become an Olympic Level athlete. The way to reach this goal is by practicing their skills over and over again until they can perform the skills without thinking. The same is true about changing thoughts. The more you repeat, repeat and repeat your new positive life affirmation thought list the quicker your new thoughts will stream into you conscious without you having to put in any conscious effort.

Tip #4

Emotional connectedness is the fourth key. Being emotionally attached to old negative thoughts or excited emotionally by the negative thoughts is how the diluted thoughts embedded themselves in the first place.

How is emotional connected so important? Reflect on this idea. A stranger can say whatever about you to you and your subconscious mind rejects it because there is no emotion attachment. But the smallest criticism from someone you are emotionally attached or you love can produce major hurt that cuts to your core.

The Secret

To be successful at changing your thought patterns just follow the four keys.  Make your list (no more than 10 positive life affirmations), repeat them at scheduled times and feel them as you repeat your new created positive thoughts and they will stay with you. 

After Thought

So the secret to altering old thought patterns is creation, consistency and emotional commitment to new thoughts. Repeat them to yourself until you set a new pattern of thinking and it will create a new mindset.

 Make a positive change today with the 30 Day Mind Changing Challenge. Take the Mini Challenge to see if you are ready to change your thoughts.

9 Tips You are a Perfectionist

Misconception

The biggest misconception in life is that “all good things come from being perfect.” Nothing in life could be further from the truth. The truth is that perfection is the major killer of joy, creativity, happiness and also success. Yet there are millions of people who are driven every day to attain what is not possible … perfection.

Actually perfection is the cause of deep disappointment.

If you always strive to be perfect … reaching for the golden ring of life … you will only find nothing but emptiness, dissatisfaction and loneliness. At the end of your effort there is only a rusted old hoop. 

One of the most creative painters of modern time, Salvador Dali said, “Have no fear of perfection – you'll never reach it.” 

Over the years, I have noticed that the issue of perfectionism is huge with a lot of the people I have talked with. When I ask the question, “Are you a perfectionist?” 95% of the people answered with a resounding, “No!” After a few follow up questions from me, 80% of those 95% say, “Well, I guess I am.”  If you think about it, you will see that achievement, promotion, raises, and advancements are all based on how well you perform not whether you are a perfectionist.

By definition, a perfectionist is a person who strains compulsively and unceasingly toward an unattainable goal (or goals). The measuring stick for their self-worth is marked off by periods of productivity and feats of accomplishment. When you pressure yourself to achieve unrealistic goals, you predictably set yourself up for disappointment. Perfectionists tend to have the voice of a mean and judgmental critic in their head. It speaks up every time they fail to attain their own (or someone else’s) extremely unrealistic expectation.

So, how do you know if you are a perfectionist? You may be a perfectionist if you try to live by extremely unattainable standards, and you feel like a failure when you fail to meet them. You may be a perfectionist if your core beliefs about yourself tend to be punitive, rejecting, and downright nasty. You may be a perfectionist if the view you have of yourself tends to be tremendously negative. 

9 TIPS You Might Be a Perfectionist If:

1. You are always anxious, but you don’t know why.

2. You constantly doubt yourself.

3. You are continuously impatient.

4. You are fearful of the results if there is a chance you 
     might be wrong about something.

5. You procrastinate frequently.

6. You frequently stress over nothing.

7. You usually over-expect to the point of disappointment.

8. You under assess all your accomplishments, always 
     selling yourself short.

9. You often worry about how you will perform in the future.

Do you recognize any of these nine signs in yourself?

After Thoughts

Look at those signs again, and this time … only focus on the bold words while blocking out the rest. Do those words describe you? Is that how you feel and react every day? 

Here’s a suggestion to improve your mental and physical health … from here on out, let go of the concept of striving for perfection. Just be and do the best you can each day. Once you stop focusing on performing perfectly, then your creativity, joy, and happiness will come back in abundance.

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