Seems like breaking an old undesirable habit is insurmountable because once you are comfortable with it, changing or eliminating it can be very frightening and extremely uncomfortable.. The problem with a habit is that the origination of it is probably not known to the person who created it. Therefore the strong need to perform activities or thoughts over and over just seems to come out from nowhere.
For a long time a habit had a negative connotation and were connected to negative or damaging stuff like addictions. Yet habits can be good, healthy, positive and achievable. Especially since humans are instinctively creators of habit.
2. Which habits do you have that do not serve you positively?
way and does not serve you emotionally, mentally or
Now shift your mindset and become more mindful of your habits.
Think of habits you can create that would serve you now and you could start today. There is no time like the moment to start to change old habits into new healthy habits. Stop spending your time ruminating about "what you can’t do" and start putting new positive behaviors, emotions or thoughts into action. The more you put something into action the greater skill level you acquire, the more confidence you will attain.
Be mindful of the moment and enjoy
Meditate for 5 minutes a day to reduce the chatter in your head and practicing purposeful breathing sometime after you have practiced your new behavior, emotion or thought you want to install
Set intentions for your day within the first hour you're awake
Exercise or go to the gym at least 3 times a week
Create specific goals in all areas of your life. Make sure your goals are specific, measurable and time lined
Create and write out a weekly schedule to keep you on track and accountable
Listening to a calming or uplifting music CD to reduce the judgmental sounds of your inner critic and it negative influences it generally has on you
Limit your time on electronic devices during the day
Be good to yourself by rewarding yourself once a day even if it is only a positive thought about you
Pat yourself on the back for just the effort you are taking in the right direction.
Notice and acknowledge what you are doing right
I like to create small and big habits when I want to increase my success of intended change. Why? The small habits keep me grounded by practicing over and over again on a daily basis in 30 days. The small habits create change quickly and are easy to accomplish. For instance forming a habit of walking I hour every day. First start with beginning of walking, say five minutes. If you focus on walking a full hour in the beginning it can be overwhelming. Walk for five minutes for a couple of weeks until it becomes firmly installed as a behavior. In the next couple of weeks expand to 30 minutes. Finally lengthen your walk to one hour. The last step should be no problem because the walk has become a habit. Start small and build into a bigger habit.