4 Ways to Cope with Loss during the Holidays

“Grief, though a period of sadness and emptiness,
is meant to be a spiritual celebration.”

~ Dr. Bill

The days between Thanksgiving to New Year‘s day can be very trying. Known as a time to be with family and love ones, often this period can be triggering for many of us and cause us to remember love ones we have lost. The holiday season may significantly worsen our emotional condition.  During this season of happy holidays, people who are grieving often think that celebrating after such a loss does not seem right and may seem disrespectful to the one who left us. But if you really think about it, in this season of gratitude, not celebrating would be a dishonor to a loved one’s memory.

We need a holiday mind shift. Maybe it should be a time to celebrate what we had with him and her. Remember the good times, fun and laughter we had, rather than focusing on what we don’t have now. Consider that you would be showing the ones who have left how much their time here was memorable and worthwhile. Bestow honor by opening up spiritually to the memories of them. Don’t reject or hide from remembrances because you are afraid that such memories could bring on pain.

Instead, celebrate the memory of your loved ones by displaying their love through the gathering of your family, passing on his or her legacy of love through stories and holiday traditions. Demonstrate remembrance by decorating the inside and outside of the house so the brightness of the Christmas lights shine into the heavens and say, “See! You are remembered! You are loved.”

There is no "right" way or wrong way to cope with loss during the holiday season, but there are some things you can do to make the process more manageable. Here are 4 ways to cope.

1.      Be Open to Communicate:

Don’t hide from communicating about the person. He or she is still alive in the heart. Give yourself permission to communicate feelings and celebrate his or her life. That will give others the feeling of permission that they can share, as well.

2.      Create a new tradition:  

Start a new tradition of remembrances by writing down some of his or her quotes, wisdom, good qualities, stories, significant life experiences and place them in a box or stocking. This is wonderful way to celebrate the person.  It is also a way to "generate conversation in a comfortable way." 

3.      Pass on their Spirit:

Consider making a donation to honor your loved one, or buying a gift and giving it to someone else in his or her name.

4.      Take Care of Yourself:

Lastly, do some self-care and nurturing to yourself. This time of year can really deplete your energy. Be sure to exercise, sleep well, limit your alcohol intake and get plenty of sleep.

Consider this … Our loved ones would never want to see us suffering because they are no longer with us. Mourning and grief are a natural part of losing someone dear, but look at the situation from their perspective … they would much rather see you smiling with memories of the happy times you shared while they were among living.

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Changing Lives One Person at a Time

Let me get right to the point…. 

I have been coaching a man who has lost everything. He lost his business, his marriage, his kids, his home, friends, support and himself. He was a successful businessman with his own company, wealthy and happy in his marriage. Then suddenly it was all gone. Why?

With the death of his father he started to experiencing negative self-limiting and self-defeating thoughts. No matter what he tried he could not turn off his negative thoughts. He kept hearing his father's voice from his childhood stating "you're stupid, you're a loser, you can't make a good decision, you're not good enough, you don't deserve happiness or success and you will always be a failure in everything you do." He surrendered to his intrusive and disturbing thoughts and he wrote himself off. He began to feel like a stranger even to himself . He even felt very uncomfortable in his own skin. He ran out of energy to fight for himself so he finally gave up.

His mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health declined rapidly.  He was plagued with anxiety, fear, worry and constant negative thoughts. A psychiatrist put him on benzodiazepines and lost all hope.

Change

Then he learned something that changed his life forever. He was shown a secret “method” that gave him the key that unlock his mind code. He discovered that his father's constant criticism and berating was accepted by him and converted into beliefs that he had about himself. It was these beliefs that were causing causing all his problems.

Secret

The secret is called “30 Day Mind Challenge”, and with the program he was able to unlock the negative code that was limiting him. With just shifting his code to positive, he was able to achieve a new found confidence and regain happiness, success and unbound energy along with good health. With help of an old friend he open his business and is on his way to flourishing again. 

How Does that Happen?

See at birth and as we grow up, we all become 'coded'. Our "mind code" forms with every life event we experience - when triggered – subconsciously our code surfaces into our conscious. Our mind code then influences how we act, think, and feel. Our code can limit our efforts to be happy and succeed.

When something happens in life our mind code already knows the answer and therefore dictates your reactions.  All you need to do is to 'decode' these messages that don't serve. Some of our coded messages embedded in our subconscious are self-limiting and self-defeating. The positive thing is that you can change and shift negative coded messages to positive if given the tools to do so. 

Understand if you feel you are too limited, defective, not good enough or damaged to achieve what you want in life, you are NOT alone. It is possible to change. 

Understand there is nothing wrong with your “hardware”. It is your “software” that is faulty and caused you to be negatively coded. It is not your fault. Re-code your software and change your life.

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1 Step to Enlightenment

One of my biggest days of my life was the birth of my grandson. To be blessed with a new gift like that filled my heart and soul and everything I have learned since then has brought me more enlightenment and wisdom.

Well today I have another gift that I want to pass on to you the reader. To begin a new path to happiness and freedom you have to gain more wisdom. Wisdom becomes fruitful when you put it into action. Action begets success and freedom. 

The result all of this is a whole new mindset.

With that I present you a new feature on this blog site. If you glance to the right of this blog you will see the new feature which is an audio player titled Radio Shows with Dr. Bill.

I have selected the most useful and important shows for the issues covered in this blog to help you gain enlightenment and wisdom. With all this wisdom you get from the shows will get you started down a new path toward shifting to a healthy mindset.

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Control and Command: Shift to a New Mindset

For over a year now, I have been asked by my clients to write an article on the difference between control and command. Control and command are important because this is the distinction between whether you respond to your life because of being forced, or you choose to exercise respect and empowerment.

"I should have been able to control it." I have heard this statement throughout 40-plus years as a therapist as well as a life and addiction recovery coach. But I must ask you, can you control anything in life? The answer is a resounding: No! When reality sets in, you cannot control how you think or feel … you can’t control other people or the events in your life. The concept of control is actually an illusion.

Let me explain by starting at the beginning. Everyone has been told since childhood that we can control anything if we are good enough and focus hard enough. People would tell you, "just stop doing it" or "just control it." I always ask the question "where did you get that?" The response is generally, "I was taught that. If I can't control it, then I am weak person."

The fact is, the more we think about controlling a thought, feeling, behavior, another person or situation, the more unable we are to exercise any control at all. Can we control our physical organs, such as stopping our breathing, heart or thinking? No. Control is based on a false expectation, achieved through power and manipulation. The more we try control a thought, feeling, or behavior, the more it comes to the foreground. Why?

3 Stages of Control

Thinking of achieving control over someone or something? Gaining control is not possible, in fact it is an illusion. You cannot control yourself other or life situations. 

There are 3 stages that you would go through when attempting to control someone or something. Here are three stages of trying to control something. 

The first stage is the plain "control" stage. In this stage control is the act of forcing something against its will. When we want to control something (ourselves, another person, a situation, or a feeling), we work and work, but in time we find that we just cannot control. It reminds me of a person trying to be perfect. Nobody's perfect, at least I haven't met that person yet.

Our failure to control can really frustrate us, so we think "I have to work harder at it." This forces us into the second stage which is "over control." In this stage we focus harder and work more on controlling the subject, situation or person by using everything in our arsenal. Again we are not able to achieve our "unreasonable" expectation.

Not achieving control in the second stage drives us into the third stage of control which is "out of control." We wildly do unreasonable behaviors or say things which are uncharacteristic of ourselves. Then the realization finally hits, we cannot control anything even ourselves. At that point hopefully, we stop, yet that is not always true. Disappointment, fear, rejection or failure sets in hard and we go into a downward spiral.

 So What is Possible?

What is possible is a skill called "command." Is there a difference? Yes. Commanding can be learned and can be achieved. Command is not based on power or manipulation. Commanding is based on respect. Command can be a learned skill and mastery can be achieved through practice. Really now … can you stop thinking? No, but you can learn how to shift your thoughts from negative to positive. The more you practice this skill, the better you will become at it. 

Will it ever be perfect? No, but who would want to be perfect. I tell people all the time: if you are perfect then that means that you never have to get out of bed. You would know everything, have done everything, seen everything, and felt everything in life, so there is no challenge or reason to function in life.

There is a law of command. The law of command is based on earning respect. You respect certain positions in life only because the person in the position has earned it, like a parent, the President, a religious leader, etc. (you get the idea). You may not like or agree with everything they do in that position, but you do respect them for earning the position. Another example you should be able to relate to is a five star General in any military service. A service person may dislike the General, may not agree with their decisions or orders, but they will follow the General's orders because they respect the rank. The General did not get the rank automatically and was not born into the rank. The General worked very hard from the bottom as an enlisted person, studied and trained for many years and weathered all the internal politics to achieve that rank. Therefore, the soldiers follow the general’s orders into battle at possible peril of their own lives out of respect of the rank that the General holds.

After Thoughts

The same is true when you apply this idea to yourself. You should have respect for yourself. How is that achieved? Plain and simple … you earned it. How? You earn yourself respect in two ways.

First way is by being conscious that your word matches your deeds. The second way is by acquiring a skill and achieve a high level of performance through practice. Over time, you will see that your need to control an issue, situation or person will decrease. You will also see a corresponding increase in the ability to competently respect yourself therefore gain command of previously unruly areas of your life.

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Another Young Entertainer Lost to Drug Overdose: Cory Monteith

The world has lost another young talented, creative and admired entertainer to drugs. Cory joins the ranks of other celebrity entertainers who accidently lost their lives to drugs use such as singer Janis Joplin, guitar player Jimmy Hendrix, Blues Brother John Beluchi, Rocker Jim Morrison, Actress Judy Garland and of course the King Elvis Presley.  All of their lives were cut short by overdoses to drugs. Not only celebrities but over 100 people die of drug overdose in America every day.

What was missed?

Even though entertainers look self assured, confident and strong on stage, in private there is a very different story being played out in their head. Thoughts of insecurity, fear, self loathing, self escape and judgment of weakness and inadequacy fill their minds and consume their thoughts … even though praise is coming toward them constantly. Like thoughts of:

Did I perform well enough?

I don’t deserve this much praise.

I don’t deserve this much money.

I am not that talented.

Will they stop loving me?

If my fans only knew the real me, they would leave me.

Entertainers in the constant spotlight turn to drugs to gain a false sense of confidence, numb emotional pain, eliminate fear, and reduce thoughts of rejection. The drug is used to turn off the critical thoughts and associated emotions. The insecure performer actually believes:

This drug will help me perform better.

I am more confident and entertaining with this drug.

This drug helps me focus.

Looping self-limiting thoughts are invisible to an adoring crowd and unseen behind a charismatic smile. Could something have been missed that might have reduced the chance of a tragic ending to this actor’s life?

Cory, like many others, went through addiction treatment and rehab. Not once, but many times. Is it that treatment centers are not effective enough? No, they are very professional and effective. Then what? One thing that addiction treatment does not address is an addict’s thought addiction. Thought addiction is not on the addiction professional’s radar right now. Thought addiction is a hidden addiction that affects many American’s mental, emotional, and physical health. Why? Think about it … Every addiction starts with a thought! That is a fact. A person will turn to drugs because of overwhelming self limiting looping thoughts.

What is Thought Addiction (TA)?

The definition of thought addiction is the development of an intrusive habitual pattern to one thought or set of thoughts. Thought addiction is the returning to a thought that does not serve the individual and has negative and damaging results to one’s life. A thought addiction depletes every system of the human body. TA is repetitive and unhealthy thoughts that deplete emotional, mental, physical and spiritual energy, leaving the person empty and second guessing themselves endlessly. Thought addiction follows the same rules and progression of all other addictions. Individuals will expand into other addictions like substances, food, exercise, emotion or behavior in an attempt to silence a thought addiction or unhealthy thought looping pattern.

Forms of addicting thoughts are:

• Anxious
• Compulsive
• Depressive
• Fearful
• Obsessive
• Negative
• Ruminating
• Self demeaning
• Self defeating
• Self limiting
• Sexual
• Suicidal
• Unwanted
• Worrisome

Relapse?

Another critical time is post treatment. If the original thought that initiated the addiction is not dealt with, once the person becomes sober, the original thought surfaces again and will be a major driver and red flag of relapse. For an addict whose thought addiction is not addressed and treated effectively, relapse is inevitable.

What to do differently?

The addiction treatment and recovery community needs to pull back the curtain and look at the real culprit … the thought that started it all. These professionals need to expand their old treatment and recovery thinking and allow a new method in.  The most dangerous time is not in treatment or rehab, but it is when the newly recovering person comes out and is left alone with his or her own thoughts again. The 12 step principles say an addict in sobriety needs to change old friends, places and life style to eliminate triggers that encouraged them to use, but the silent driver has always been – the thought.

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3 Ways to Benefit from Your Mistakes

Have you ever made a mistake? Everyone has. Yet after making mistakes you become so frightened or apprehensive to make another mistake for fear of what might happen? It also causes you to second guess everything you do after that point.

Society has become so performance orientated and focused that many shy away from risking new things or learning new skills and causes you to stay with only familiar and comfortable things even it they are bad for you. You may become so afraid of making a mistake that you just don't venture into new experiences and keep you in a rut. In fact you may isolate yourself from experiences to stop any future possibility of making another mistake.

   

Is not getting involved with life a mistake also?

The more afraid you are of making a mistake, the less willing you will be of taking a risk, the more restricted you are, you become rigid and end up stuck. You actually create a pattern that can cause you to be less involved with other people, situations and you learn less. If you shy away from trying new things or not taking risks, you deprive your Soul of the nutriments needed to grow and thrive.

Could your mistakes be positive?

Making a mistake is normal part of life. No one is perfect. Making a mistake can be very positive. If you don’t make a mistake when you attempt something new then how do you learn. Each different experience, task or situation should bring something beneficial to your character.

Remember all the times growing up when you were so afraid to join in playing with others kids for fear of being embarrassed, ridiculed for not performing as well as others or just plain not being good enough. Look at all you lost out on. Don’t let that happen now. Accept and embrace your mistakes for what they can bring to your life.

Therefore don't let past incidents of mistakes determine who you are as a person or a barrier to your future. We all make mistakes. Without mistakes there is no way you can learn or make positive changes. If you are always right and do everything perfectly then you have no reason to get out of bed. Isn't that sad? So you cannot allow mistakes to define who you are.

3 Ways to Benefit from a Mistake

Remind yourself every time you make a mistake to ask yourself these three questions.

  1. What did I learn?

       2. What can I do differently next time?

       3. How did this make me better as a person?

Once you get your answers you will see your lessons clearly and your Soul will have fuel to keep on growing.

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Imagination is the Power to Success

"All change stems from our imagination. Imagination is capable of turning mind energy into a vision and success."  --Dr Bill

“How do I change my life in a positive way?”

Simply use your imagination. Imagination is one of our most powerful tools available to you.  Imagination is the one thing within you, as a human, that gives you the amazing ability to "create" anything you want.  Think about it.  Your imagination can truly assist us in creating something new? Everything that you has been created in the world has stemmed from the seed in someone's imagination. Everyone has this ability.

How to Change?

In order to access our imagination we have to spend time with our self. 

Find a peaceful environment, get quiet, be calm, and ask for guidance with or inspiration about a specific desire or idea.

  

Focus on the desire or idea and say it aloud, then remain quiet and calm...and notice the flow of thoughts that come to mind.  

Listen and hear the answers in your head.  

Write down all the answers. Do not discount or rationalize any thoughts that come to mind. 

Then, rest in the faith that our imagination generates additional ideas and solutions. Know that imagination possesses all the energy needed to continue generating more ideas and solutions on the way to accomplishing success in our lives. 

Believe, have faith and harvest the rewards. The more you practice the easier success will come and our imagination will open to its abundance.

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Over Thinking can Result in a Thought Addiction

The importance of the concept of having an addiction to a thought has been increasing. Thought addiction is a fact. The truth is that the power behind all addictions is a thought.

Definition of Thought Addiction (TA)

Simply, thought addiction is when a thought or set of thoughts get stuck in your head and those thoughts begin to create a thought loop. As the thoughts loop, the you become more and more focused on the thought which increasingly becomes overwhelming and you are less able to turn off your focus on that specific thought. 

As the power of the looping thought(s) increases, you feel as though you have lost control of your mind as well as your thoughts. Once out of control, the thought ends up consuming your energy and depletes your ability to perform successfully in your every day life. At that point, the thought takes over your emotional and mental life therefore you become addicted. 

Once that thought is no longer controllable you may act out in different ways in an attempt to turn the thought off. Some people use methods such as self-medicating it, fighting it or use a substance to avoid thinking that specific thought(s). 

Many people with a thought addiction state “I can’t get this thought out of my head and it is driving me crazy”. 

Concept of Thought Addiction

What is so important to take away from the concept of addiction to a thought is that a thought addiction not a mental disorder or a lack of self control problem. Thought addiction is a skill deficiency.

Generally these types of thoughts are core beliefs from your past or negative statements expressed to you from someone else. These types of thoughts are triggered by a present event, statement or surfacing emotion. Once the thought is triggered it then surfaces unconsciously into your mind. The most common example of this type of thought is “I am not good enough”.

Cognitive therapists have long known and it has been proven that a thought precedes an emotion and a behavior. But there is more to it. Think of a triangle. Yes a emotion does not occur without a thought. An emotion generated a behavior. But also a behavior drives the development of a thought. Each one is connected to the other. Note that the triangle or everything starts with a thought first.

Form of Thought that can become Addictive

But what is also true is that “every addiction begins and ends with a thought”. 

Below is a few forms of thoughts which can result in chronic looping or can become addicting are:

·        body image thoughts
·        compulsive thoughts

·        depressive thoughts
·        diluted thoughts

·        thoughts of doubt

·        thoughts of fear

·        worry

·        negative thoughts

·        obsessive thoughts

·        lack of worth thoughts

·        superstitious thoughts

·        suicidal thoughts

·        weight thoughts

So it is important to understand that the way to stop an addiction to a thought or unceasing a looping thought is through gaining a skill and then practicing that skill. 

You have the power to command and reset your thoughts. All you need to acquire the right skills and have the willingness to consistently practice the skills to effect positive change.

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Trauma Recovery Southwest Florida

New Direction for Survivors of Abuse and Trauma in Southwest Florida

Are you having trouble coping with old trauma memories or flashbacks?  Do you feel like you are still living in the past and not in the present? Not able to move on with your life? Don’t know how to stop holding on to the past?  Keep dissociating as a coping skill?

Trauma recovery is hard to do on your own. Major inroads have been made trauma treatment, but living on your own and attempting to recover is very hard.  Coaching and mentoring can be a tremendous advantage and support reducing the affects of Post traumatic Stress syndrome.

Trauma recovery continues to be misunderstood by professionals for survivors with childhood abuse and trauma.  They continue to believe that PTSD symptoms are a mental health problem and not a normal response reaction to experiencing a life threatening events. Negative thoughts as the result of traumatic memories and flashbacks can be personally damaging and disrupting to daily life.

Are you attempting to fight negative self thoughts in your head constantly? Are negative thoughts making you uncomfortable in social situations whether you are at school, a job or with family?

Well it is possible to change the affects of PTSD symptoms. Stop letting your past define you. Get the support you deserve along with a customized action plan for recovery that really works. Having a trauma coach / trauma recovery mentor can help you accomplish it. There are skills you can learn that will help you move forward. You can learn to increase your ability and skill level to recognize, reset, restructure and recover. You can learn to shift old negative beliefs and create new beliefs and positive behavior patterns. Learn to live in the moment and stop holding on to the past.

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Comparison of Life Coaching and Therapy: Revelation

I wrote a blog explaining the difference between Life Coaching and Therapy. I got a very interesting and positive comment. I would like to share the comment and my answer with you. I think you would find both very interesting and candid.

Comment from Reader

I can see the importance of both...therapist and life coach. I have experienced both. I have experienced good points in both.

Most of my life I have been in therapy and have been given many "labels"..."diagnosis's"... and the labels do follow you through your whole life. Once "labeled" it sticks in your brain and you believe this will always be who I am. Even after years of therapy and doing better, I still carry that "label" around even if it is in my subconscious and I feel it has held me back and kept me from being "compete"..."whole".

Also medication issues, I believe psychiatrist think they are honestly helping by giving medication...but I have found it has only hindered and delayed my healing process.

Seeing a "good" life coach can make all the difference in the world. They do not see "labels" they see me for who I am... for what I can be...and help work through the obstacles that are blocking the path in becoming who I truly am...or can be...my desires can become my reality.

I do believe therapy has helped me...if nothing else...it has kept me alive and kept me from giving up many years ago. But, having a life coach has taken me to places I thought I would never see...never become. Desires "are" becoming "realities".

My new desire is to be free from addictive medications I have been on for many years. And I also believe this "desire" will become a "reality". Thanks to a wonderful life coach that believes in me and doesn't look at "labels"...but looks at me and my true abilities. 

Anonymous

Reply to Reader

Dear Anonymous,

I really appreciate you making a comment on my blog. I wrote it to inform people on the differences between Life Coaching and Therapy. There are many misunderstandings floating around. I want others to know that there are other views and paths when seeking relief from abuse or trauma recovery, healing and freedom.

Traditional methods are very effective for a lot of mental conditions (of which I was part of that system for 38 years), but Post traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is not one of them. PTSD is not a pathological disorder. PTS, I wish they would drop the "D", is a "normal" mental, physical and spiritual response to viewing or experiencing a life threatening event. The event could be mild or server, primary or secondary, but the resulting affect are the same. The event changes the person, response to self and others and changes their life. Traumatic events follow survivors like a constant shadow.

I hope that this blog allowed you to see both in a new light side by side. Coaching is a skill based acquisition method rather than an examining “wrong/broken" method. What is funny is that psychiatry, psychology or coaching is an exact science. So it is the practitioner behind the tools that makes the difference.

Another difference is Life Coaching gives people accountability through assignments and action plans they have to complete. Therapy does not.  I would rather be accountable and invested rather than expecting the therapist to have the “right answer”.

It is now people’s choice in what direction they want to travel. Either focus on what was wrong with your past and take the chance the “negative” will manifest that into their life (therapy).  Or self assess what they want (happiness/success), what skills they need to acquire your goal and achieve it.

Your choice toward your “freedom” is yours.

Affirm Your Soul

We all need to enjoy a bit of freedom and relaxation. This beautiful video does just that. Please enjoy this video and affirm your spirit.

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Making a Positive Change Online Journal

 “I just don’t like me.” Many people make this statement because they lack clarity about themselves, and what they don’t understand, they judge negatively.

A worthwhile goal, then, would be finding a way to improve this understanding of your inner self. Understanding can be improved through communication. How do you communicate with you? Journaling can be an effective tool to enhance communication with your inner self.

Recognition (being self aware) is a key component of emotional intelligence.  Emotional intelligence is simply the awareness of, and the ability to manage and command, one's own emotions through respect of those emotions. Recognition creates the opportunity to reflect, assess and make necessary changes. It also helps you to become clear about what you truly want out of life and to have something to focus on, put into action steps and achieve what you actually want.

Journaling is one way of gaining a true picture of yourself, developing emotional intelligence and becoming clear about your core beliefs and goals in life. However, journaling also has many other benefits including enhancing growth and knowledge.

The power of journaling is taking what you think in the ethereal plane (somewhere out there) and bringing to reality in writing. Once it is in your journal, it becomes your truth.

Journaling is not the same as writing a daily diary. A diary is a record of daily experiences, thoughts and reactions to those events.

Journal writing is an effective way to record personal thoughts, dreams, barriers, fears, excitements, experiences, ideas, inventions, successes and evolving insights. Journaling can also serve as a way to gain mental clarity about events, experiences and emotions. Just writing every day in a diary is not sufficient in itself to bring about deep changes in one's life.

Journaling gives you the ability to gain insight into, and the expression of, complex ideas, visions, intentions and recognition to the subconscious to reach a deeper understanding.

Journaling can serve as a platform for your personal opinions, hopes, barriers, fears, inner conflicts, dilemmas, challenges, issues, evolving views, confusion about core values and beliefs, life changes and other problems that come up in life.

Here are 7 simple tips to effective journaling:

1. A journal is your private record just for you and only you.

2. Sign up for the Making a Positive Change (MPC) free membership and gain access to the free live daily journal so that you can comfortably allow your feelings, thoughts and emotions to flow without fear of someone seeing your entries.

3. Find a time with the least distractions to write on your computer in your MPC journal. Be comfortable and express yourself freely. 

4. Create different portions in your MPC journal. Section off a part for gratitude, wishes, joys and visions of the future and create another part for barriers, problems, ideas or resentments that keep you stuck from getting what you want.

5. Write without worrying about grammar, form or judgment. Writing without restrictions and judgments produces a deep focus known as being "in a creative zone.”

6. Write for quantity. Give yourself permission to open your mind to express every thought and emotion that arises that affects your actions or relationship with your inner self. If you come up with a "Wow” moment, acknowledge it and keep writing. You can come back to it later.

7. If you intend to express emotion, use phrases beginning with "I feel …" For wants or visions, begin sentences with “I deserve …” Ideas and thoughts start with “I think …” This allows you to separate them and recognize the differences.

Remember, you can create and write a journal for every area of your life - gratitude, dreams, memoirs, emotions, intentions and dreams. Journaling is a key to knowing yourself more intimately and improving your relationship with you.

Be inspired and start a journal today. You deserve it.

Benefits of journaling:

·      Increases clarity in your thoughts

·      Find out what is subconsciously blocking or motivating you

·      Identify various subconscious negative core beliefs

·      Reveal buried resentments

·      Discover hidden problems

·      Determine subconscious dreams

·      Gain perspective over difficult situations

·      Open a channel for communication with your higher intelligence

The effectiveness of journaling is determined by the way you approach the writing. The approach should be authentic and positive. Write openly without fear, judgment, blame, justification or shame. In fact, the very act of writing this way can lead to personal freedom. Journaling can create the opportunity for greater self-love and self-understanding.

Questions to ask

 Have you kept a journal in the past? 

      
     Why did you stop?

     Have you kept a journal for years? 

Why do you continue journaling?

     What’s the greatest benefit you've found from journaling?

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Why Mind Code Rule Thoughts - Video

Let me ask you some questions. 

- Why are you not living your passion?

- Why are you not doing the work you truly love?

- Why are you not loving yourself?

- Why are you not having what you want?

- Why are you not living your dream?

Do you know? Is it possible that the reason is you do not believe in yourself? In fact do you believe others are more capable, smarter and deserving than you ? 

Maybe the answer to all of the above "why your are not" questions is the result of bad mind code? Very possible.

Understanding what mind code is and how it works

Everyone who has a computer is somewhat knowledgeable of "source code" Source code is the code that runs a computer in the background such as all the prettiness it produces from websites, pictures, word documents and so on. Basically it is the instructions of how the computer is to perform. If the code is written  bad then the computer does not work as it should. A virus or one small symbol change in all the pages of source code can ruin the whole computer. If you have ever experienced "blue screened of death" it is because there is an error in the operating system source code. A operating system source code error is also known as "bad code". Generally once that happens then it is off to the store to buy a new computer. 

Well the brain is the same way. The brain has two types of code to operate a whole human, innate code and mind code.  Both types of code are written and embedded without your knowledge. 

One from the time of conception and the other as your life unfolds. Both are undetectable to your conscious mind because they are embedded deep within your subconscious mind.

Innate Code

First human code is innate code. Innate coding is procedural instructions built into a human's DNA for how the body will work automatically. Innate code controls heartbeat, blood pressure, respiration, pulse, digestion and much more. 

Mind Code

Mind code or "event coding" determines how the mind will respond to life (think, feel, act and reaction). Event coding is procedural instructions or messages formed about self as a result of the experiences events.  So how is the mind code detected?


Recognizing Mind Code

"Core beliefs are your windows to your mind code"

There is a way to recognize and view a person's mind code. It is possible through a person's core beliefs. 

Core beliefs are the messages or procedural instructions formed by the person about the person during each life event experienced throughout a lifetime. So what does that all mean? If the core beliefs are negative then how a person thinks, feels, acts and reacts is negative. On the other hand if the core beliefs are positive then influence on the same will be positive. Of course there is no true negative core beliefs or positive ones you say. You are correct. But it is the balance of percentage of positive versus negative. Once core beliefs are made visible and based on the flavor or  inference of  those core beliefs then it is only one small step to understanding the nature of the mind code.

 Importantly, if  the majority of core beliefs are negative then thoughts and feels toward self will cause a person to be self defeating, self limiting, and or self punishing.

Another point is that core beliefs are the reflection of the person's mind code. The core beliefs can be motivators or barriers to getting what is wanted or achieving happiness or success.

So what can be done?

Discover the nature of your mind code, learn to shift it and your life will be whatever you want.

How do you do that? 

I am about to launch a groundbreaking mindcodearchitecture© self help product which can help anyone recognize his or her core beliefs, identify whether the embedded core beliefs generated from the mind code are motivators or barriers, positive or negative, create new core beliefs, shift what is not want and  radically change his or her Personal Philosophy.

Discover your mind's code that governs how you think, act, feel and react by watching this Mini Lecture on What is Mind Code? 

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