What are you saying
to yourself?
You are probably experiencing negative thinking on a daily
basis. Some days it is mild and on other days it is more severe. Is your
negative thinking limiting you?
Most negative thinking is an attempt block or avoid negative
thinking by initiating “if only thinking”. If only thinking is an attempt to
project into the future and stay out of your present. You start in this style
of thinking to avoid having to make decisions in the moment. Otherwise meaning this
type of thinking is an advance way of second guessing yourself and what is
happening in your life. An advantage of if only thinking is that it keeps you
out of the moment, away from negative thoughts, stops your feelings and gets
you into the future.
What is “If Only
Thinking”?
To help you understand better and become more mindful of
such thinking, here is a definition. Basically the definition “if only thinking”
is thinking that projects you into the future where you will get something or
someone you want (because you are not getting it now) and produce an action
(happiness, fulfillment or success).
So how does “if only
thinking” work in your mind
Say you are in a situation, relationship or job where you
are not getting you what you want and possibly unhappy. You have to make a
decision of what you want, to do or feel. To avoid it you make a false
intention to yourself, like “if I only would get X (could be something or
someone) then I would be the happiest person in the world.” You work very hard
to get that something or someone in your life. You actually do work hard and get X.
Once you get X you find out that it does not automatically change your
situation, your feelings, your behavior or situation. You realize is nothing
changed like you expected. At the same time you are told by someone close to
you, “well you are so lucky that you got X, you should be the happiest you
have ever been?” Inside yourself, you know the answer is “No, I am not”.
At that point your “if only thinking” kicks in again and
your mind feeds you another false proposition, if you got Y, then you would attain the
real answer. Now you really over expect and quietly bet on Y being the answer. Once
more you work very hard to achieve Y, and you do achieve Y.
But again you discover Y does not fulfill your inner need
or expectation.
Since Y is not the answer and extreme
disappointed sets in. Your mind then searches wildly into a possible future
scenario. Amazingly your mind comes up with another false scheme. Suddenly you
know that X and Y were not the real answer but now,
for sure, Z is what will make you will make you content, peaceful,
gratified and prosperous. You put in all the effort you can muster up and
accomplish Z. The result is having Z is still not your answer. You remain
unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled.
Without answer your mind consequently continues on and on in
this type of diluted thinking cycle. Meanwhile you are totally losing and missing
what is in front of you in the moment.
What if you could
hack into your thoughts?
Hacking is the art of being able to break into something.
For the purpose of this article Hacking is the skill of breaking into your
thinking source code.
4 Tips on Hacking your Mind for Positive Results
Is it possible? Yes it is. In order to hack into your own thoughts first you need to stop doing what you
are doing. Get in a comfortable position and take two deep breaths (all the way
in and exhale completely). By stopping all distractions you will be able to
increase your ability to focus and get into harmony with your thoughts. As long
as you are inattentive to your thoughts, taking your thoughts for granted and
as the truth, then you cannot help but be swallowed up by the diluted thinking
that your answers are in the future and not in the moment.
1. Create a new mindset
You have the ability to change your thoughts once you know if the focus of your thoughts are mainly centered on your past, your moment or your future. The most power way to change your thoughts is to change your mindset.
2. Don't invest into
false possibilities
Don't be swayed into a false beliefs or untrue possibilities
which cause you to over expect. 99% of all predicting thoughts of what you
think might happen in the future (good or bad) do not come true. You're predicting
thoughts are not true reflection of what will happen in the future and the positive
outcomes you want.
The best way to hack into your own thinking and not coming
swayed by this type of thinking is to not take your thinking personally. Once you
are depersonalized from your thinking you can be more efficient in hacking and
changing your thinking. You do this by imagining you are viewing your thinking
by being another person looking in on your own mind. “If only thinking” can be
so real, enticing and alluring that you get into a false sense of excitement, possibility
and gratification. Unfortunately, none of the promises from this form of
thinking ever come true.
3. Be real, not
emotionally connected
Now view your thoughts from an impersonal mindset. It will
allow you to be able to step back mentally with more objectiveness and less
emotional charge tied to your thinking. Once you are less emotionally attached you
will reduce the influence your thinking has over you.
Imagine your “if only thinking” has its own body and mind.
Pretend this person is talking to you and attempting to convince you “if
only you would (buy, feel, do….) then your life would be perfect”.
Once you have this objectiveness set up in your mind, then spend a day talking
to this person. Guaranteed you will want to completely separate yourself from
this person (a.k.a. the thinking) by the end of the day because nothing that
this person is saying ever comes true.
“If only thinking” has far less impact on your actions,
emotions, mindset or future outcomes than you would like to think. If you do
not allow it to have power it won’t. If you're willing to be objective and monitor
the content of all your thoughts, you will be able to successfully hack into
your thinking, shut down the “if only thinking” and negative thoughts as well
as gain clarity of all the good things in life in the moment. Having
gratitude for what you have in the moment is always better and healthier than
betting on a prediction that will never happen.
4. Gain Mindfulness
Lastly, you should begin the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is being able to
stay focused on what is occurring in the moment. Mindfulness is having no
judgment, no thoughts and no meaning. It’s simply focusing in the moment.
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