Tips on 3 Things that Stop Positive Change

  "Don't be a slave to your past but rather the bishop of your 
                  Soul and the architect of your moment." 
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Are you still holding grudges against someone or some situation from your past? 

Understand that holding on to old material, emotions or grudges that are really clogs up your personal energy, mental space and ability to move forward in this coming year.

The general stereotype that has been passed around from generation to generation, is change is impossible. You can't change yourself, the way you feel, the way you think, your life or even rewrite your history if you are holding onto too much old baggage. 

True or False?

It is true you become stuck and unable to move forward if your mind is to busy holding onto the past. But what is not true is that you can't change. Of course you can. It takes willingness, perseverance and readiness. 

In order to change you have to go through a complete reset of your mind. You should start with throwing all your past garbage out of your life. All physical, mental, emotional and spiritual negative energy you have been unknowing holding onto. Stop holding on to all the old stuff that does not serve you. Start from scratch; so, do a general cleaning of internal closet.

If you continue to stockpile your old grudges and not clean out your internal mental closet it may lead to three things:

     1. The endless ruminating and over thinking about past                        situations will produce a constant parade of mental, 
         emotional and behavioral flashbacks. 

     2. You begin to over expect and overestimate leading 
          to endless disappointment.

     3. You have no space to let any new things in that are positive.

Take Away

So it makes sense to clean out your internal mental closet of old grudges, hurts, regrets and resentments that you have been storing for a long time and are running around in your mind. Once you clean out your the closet in your mind, your mind will reset itself. As a result you will realize an increase in energy, mental clarity, increased storage space and more focus.

Start cleaning today!


          Coach Bill

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Performance an Issue Already?

Day 9 

Has the performance on your resolutions begun to diminish already? Are you questioning your commitment?

This questioning of your performance is more normal than not even at this early stage. Creating a discipline fast when you are not use to it is very hard.

Typically when resolutions are set at the dawn of the New Year, the list tends to be a list of many.

Think of this scenario. When you have a long list of resolutions, you, like many people, feel obligated to work on each resolution all at once. Attempting to fulfill a long list of resolutions, even with your high enthusiasm at this point, is a recipe for failure. Why? Let’s say you have four resolutions on your list you want to work on and attain. Now you only have so much limited time and energy. That means that if you work on all four, each resolution gets a 25% of your energy and time. Or in another way you only have a 1 in 4 chance you will complete any of the resolutions on your list. If you have a larger list then your chances are even smaller.

Is this a form of self-sabotage? Or are we looking for an excuse not complete all your resolutions that might have been made in haste under some type of pressure whether from family, friends, society or a learned core belief like “I have to set resolutions each year”?

Check your list and make sure you are not overwhelming yourself. Be sure that you do not have too many for the time and energy you have. Then do a self-examine. Is your commitment to your resolutions that you set sound and realistic?

Solution

It may be time to recalibrate  your goals and focus on one at a time, so that you do not get overwhelmed or give up.