What are Boundaries?
Simply put, boundaries are like a "job description". With healthy boundaries you can ensure your personal safety and protection when you are with other people. Without boundaries you are vulnerable and unprotected. Others will think that they can do, make you do or say anything whatever to you and you will accept it.
Basically boundaries are an invisible but a clear line between what you will do or not do, what you will allow and not allow,and what you will accept and not accept. Boundaries convey to others what your limits are.
Believe it or not other people are happy when they know what your limits are. It helps them to know how to treat you.
Sometimes the lack of boundaries is merely a sign of a deeper problem: confidence, esteem, feeling undeserving and unworthiness.
1. How you want to be treated.
Write a list of all the things you will not accept from others or do with as well as for other people in each of the type of boundaries mentioned above.
For example: "I will not accept you using anger toward me when you talk to me."
2. Set a Consequence
When you set a boundary be sure to attach a consequence.
For example: If you talk to me like that I will walk away."
Consequences tells other people what you will do if they break your personal boundaries. Be sure if you set up consequences, when they break them you follow through with the consequence.
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