is meant to be a spiritual celebration.”
~ Dr. Bill
The days between
Thanksgiving to New Year‘s day can be very trying. Known as a time to be with
family and love ones, often this period can be triggering for many of us and cause
us to remember love ones we have lost. The holiday season may significantly worsen
our emotional condition. During this
season of happy holidays, people who are grieving often think that celebrating after
such a loss does not seem right and may seem disrespectful to the one who left
us. But if you really think about it, in this season of gratitude, not celebrating
would be a dishonor to a loved one’s memory.
We need a holiday
mind shift. Maybe it should be a time to celebrate what we had with him and
her. Remember the good times, fun and laughter we had, rather than focusing on what
we don’t have now. Consider that you would be showing the ones who have left
how much their time here was memorable and worthwhile. Bestow honor by opening
up spiritually to the memories of them. Don’t reject or hide from remembrances
because you are afraid that such memories could bring on pain.
Instead, celebrate
the memory of your loved ones by displaying their love through the gathering of
your family, passing on his or her legacy of love through stories and holiday
traditions. Demonstrate remembrance by decorating the inside and outside of the
house so the brightness of the Christmas lights shine into the heavens and say, “See! You are remembered! You are
loved.”
There is no
"right" way or wrong way to cope with loss during the holiday season,
but there are some things you can do to make the process more manageable. Here
are 4 ways to cope.
1.
Be Open to Communicate:
Don’t hide from communicating about the person. He
or she is still alive in the heart. Give yourself permission to communicate
feelings and celebrate his or her life. That will give others the feeling of permission
that they can share, as well.
2.
Create a new tradition:
Start a new tradition of remembrances by writing down
some of his or her quotes, wisdom, good qualities, stories, significant life
experiences and place them in a box or stocking. This is wonderful way to
celebrate the person. It is also a way
to "generate conversation in a comfortable way."
3.
Pass on their Spirit:
Consider making a donation to honor your loved one, or
buying a gift and giving it to someone else in his or her name.
4.
Take Care of Yourself:
Lastly, do some self-care and
nurturing to yourself. This time of year can really deplete your energy. Be
sure to exercise, sleep well, limit your alcohol intake and get plenty of
sleep.
Consider this … Our loved ones would never want to see us
suffering because they are no longer with us. Mourning and grief are a natural
part of losing someone dear, but look at the situation from their perspective …
they would much rather see you smiling with memories of the happy times you
shared while they were among living.
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