5 Tips on Changing to Positive Thinking

Your thoughts are very important and carry a lot of conscious power and influence to rule your life.

Unfortunately it seems as though thoughts come out of thin air and control you but they really don’t.

Here is 7 tips on what your thoughts determine. 

1. Thoughts determine, direct, and influence you degree of awareness.

2. Thoughts determine your emotions. How you feel, good or bad, happy or sad. 

3. Thoughts determine how you focus. Whether you focus on the past, the 
     moment or into the future. 

4. Thoughts determine how you view yourself. Your self-worth, confidence and identity.

5. Thoughts determine whether you have value and your worth in degree to 
    someone or something else.

6. Thoughts determine how you perceive others and the world around you.

7. Thoughts determine the type of relationships you have with yourself and someone else.

What are the origin of your thoughts?

Since you are not total aware of where your thoughts come from it is good to understand where they originate. Your thoughts are actually generated from your core beliefs that reside deep from within your subconscious mind. Your core beliefs are formed from the experiences you have growing up. So in order to change your thoughts you have to become aware of what you truly believe in. If your beliefs are not positive then neither will your thoughts be. 

5 Tips on Changing Your Thoughts to Positive and Productive

So how to change your core beliefs that will change the nature of your thoughts. Here 5 steps on how to accomplish a change in the thoughts your mind generates.

1. Recognition 

First of all you cannot fix what you’re aware. So recognition is your first and most important step. On a piece of paper, write down all your beliefs you have about yourself, others and the world; good and bad, insignificant or significant, large or small. Also note the emotion that is associated with each core belief you list.

2. Identity

In this step determine each belief in your list actually your truth? Identify whether each belief you recognized on your listed is real or a lie, positive or negative, productive or destructive. Draw a one straight line through the beliefs that are not true, negative and destructive. Those marked core beliefs are the ones that are barriers to change and counterproductive to the way you want to think.

3. Create anew

Third step is creating new list of beliefs. Next to each lined out belief, create and write down a positive belief you want to replace the old blocking belief with next to it. To make sure each belief embeds itself assign a feeling to each new belief. If you do not create new beliefs with an associated feeling and consistently work to replace the old ones your mind will continue to generate the same old useless thoughts. 

4. Practice, practice and practice so more

Last step is to shift your mind to focus and accept the new belief over old belief. You accomplish this by practicing acceptance through repeating your new list out loud to yourself 5 times daily, every day for 30 days. It is most important is to say your new belief list first time in the morning when you first wake up and then the last time before you close your eyes to go to sleep. To make your new beliefs more powerful, say your new beliefs with the feeling assigned to each belief in step 3 and do it with a strong emotional tone.

 Saying the list every day for 30 days and you follow through with the practicing the new beliefs daily they will embed themselves into your subconscious and the new ones will replace the old ones. Also the beliefs will become your mind’s truth. 

5. Be observant

Also monitor your thoughts after the 30 days and acknowledge when your new beliefs start to manifest themselves in your thoughts. How will you know that? You will be told by other people in your life that you seem different, thinking differently or you will be aware of the difference.

After Thoughts

Once you recognize the origin of your thoughts, meaning recognizing the ones that are false, negative and unproductive and that your old thoughts were generated from them then the power to change your thoughts is yours. Don’t be a slave to your thoughts anymore. When you change the content of your core beliefs you then hold the ability to influence and determine how you will think.
Empower yourself by invoking new beliefs that you can accept and believe in.

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Powers of Thought

Seems as though your thoughts have all the power in the world, especially in your own head.

If only you had the power to just change your thoughts with just changing the way you think.

Do your thoughts have power or are they influenced and govern from the deeps part of the mind? There has been a huge misconception going on for decades which says if you think positive thoughts you can overcome negative and move with positiveness. For years people have been focusing on and practicing faithfully positive affirmations in order to change negative thought to positive just by saying. Well it is not working at all. Universally people are getting really tired of it. People have become very tired of this philosophy that just positive thinking can project them into being happy, fulfilled and successful thoughts. 

To think that you can just think positive thoughts and your mind will change its thought patterns and will help you through life's barrier is very misleading. Thoughts do not have that power.

Significantly less than 10% of our ability to succeed, lose weight, overcome bad situations, make positive change, stop negative thoughts, recover from addictions, form deeper relationships, achieve love, or find fulfillment, has to do with how you think. 

Actually more than 90% has to do directly with beliefs you have formed as you grew up and are now stored in your subconscious mind. You are unaware of that fact. Believe it or not you have been accumulating and accepting beliefs into your subconscious mind over your life time. Really it is these stored beliefs which directly influence and govern how you form your thoughts and how you think.

In order to make a substantial change to how you think you have to understand how your mind works and that over 90 percent of all thoughts are formed and govern by your beliefs that have shaped from your experiences as you grew up. These beliefs, unknown to you, embedded themselves in your subconscious mind. 

The content of your thoughts and degree of happiness, fulfillment and success you experience originate directly based on your beliefs. 

Thought Power is the Direct Result Of an Mind Algorithm

Your beliefs actually are formed from what is termed mind code. Your mind code is what really determines who you are, how you behave, your emotions, how you sense and how you react as well as and very importantly mind code is where your identity originated. 

Mind code is data your brain gathers everyday of your life from situations you go through. Think of mind code as a mind algorithm. An algorithm is step by step instructions of how your mind will operate. The data is then converted into your belief system or personal philosophy. Then your core beliefs feed content to your inner voice. It is the content of your inner voice that greatly influences and governs the formation and direction of your thoughts

A mind algorithm is very similar to a computer algorithm. In a computer it is the algorithms that tell the computer and program how to function. If the computer algorithms get changed like through a virus then the computer reacts differently or doesn’t work at all. The same is true with mind algorithms. If the mind accepts negative data from experiences, it then produces negative beliefs and in turn generates negative thoughts. An example is if we experience a hurtful situation that causes you to form a negative core belief that you are not good enough then you will think we are not good enough and not know why you are negative toward yourself. 

So the powers your think your thoughts have doesn’t start at the thinking level. The power is in your mind code and core beliefs which are completely unknown to your consciousness until it surfaces into your inner voice. 

If you really want to change how your thoughts you need to change your core beliefs. Mind code that ultimately decides how you will act, feel, interact and think about ourselves, others and life situations.

6 Tips Accessing the Powers to Change Thought

Let's get started regaining your power.

1. Believing that you have the power to create positive habits. The truth is, it’s just as easy to create positive habits as it is to create negative ones. It’s just a matter of how you spend your time.  You can spend your time believing things you are not or create new beliefs that bring you closer to what you want to believe in. Or submitting to old beliefs that do not serve you.  

Thinking negatively can become an addiction. People complain, “It’s too hard to keep my energy up thinking in what is good for me!” It’s not hard – it’s just that people get in the habit of thinking negatively. If this sounds like you, break the habit.  Realize that you are where you are because of the way you believed in the past, and your future depends on the beliefs you accept today. You can choose to stay negative, or create new beliefs that will change your thinking.  You can choose to watch another sitcom, or you can choose to read another chapter in a great book. 

Honestly you can choose to act on opportunity, or you can choose to focus barriers. There’s nothing hard or complicated about it, other than the way you’re thinking based on old negative core beliefs that no longer serve you or the direction in your life.

2. Ruminating on everything, over and over again. Lack of confidence and discipline, mixed with over expecting rapid success and negative beliefs, fuels a habit of negative thoughts. Many studies suggest that ruminating is a self-handicapper: rather than risk failure, they prefer to create and indulge in beliefs formed long ago that create barriers to success and make it next to impossible which forms a vicious cycle. The best thing you can do for yourself is to break this cycle – stop saying “I can’t,” start saying “I can,” and then put it into action. The world isn’t going to dominate itself.  Stop fearing something will probably won’t happen in your life. 

Thinking isn’t enough; you must apply! Building a strong belief system is the way toward successful thinking; you must DO! If you can’t change all beliefs at once changing a few at a time will add up. A positive belief system built over time, in small increments, tends to be create a change in your thinking that lasts for a long time. 

3. Comparing oneself to others, and then harboring bitterness or resentment. Negative thinking people believe someone else’s good fortune steals from their own. They believe they are not good enough to deserve success. This leads to bitterness and resentment. Don’t let bitterness (or jealously) get the best of you. Bitterness is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own – there’s nothing attractive or admirable about believing this. So stop comparing your journey with everyone else’s. Your life is your life. Living isn’t a competition. You are competing with yourself to believe you are the best you can be. If you want to measure your improvement, compare yourself to who you were yesterday.

4. Self-doubt fuels negativity and withdrawal. The mind is an awesome tool if used right, but it’s also a negativity engine that attempts to fill your awareness with doubt if you allow it. Any uncomfortable thinking should be rejected. Don’t accept it and let it get the best of you. Believe in yourself through tough times. Believe in your capacity to flourish. Believe making new connections are worth the effort. Believe strongly that people make mistakes on their way to greatness. Believe that people can be thoughtless and intelligent, selfish and gracious, and stressed and excited all at the same time. Believe that there are many roads to what’s right. Most of all believe in your intuition, especially when you have to choose between two good paths. Believe that the answers are within you not outside you. Believe that life will surprise you over and over again. Believe that your experiences along the way are the destination. Those who don’t have strong and positive beliefs, think they will never find their strength within.

5. Don’t put yourself down. There is enough people out there to put you down due to their own negative beliefs. Begin with forming compassion toward yourself. Compassion simply is a keen emotional understanding of the situations you have experienced and how they have gotten you to where you have gotten to. 

Believe that you can overcome anything and your thinking will fall in line.

6. Recognize your beliefs. You have to recognize your beliefs in order to correct them. Your core beliefs are the windows of your mind code. Meaning if you make the effort to recognize the bad beliefs you carry and change them then your life will change for the better. So write down a list of all your core beliefs you have about yourself. Study the list and determine whether each one is true or false, real or delusional, yours or someone else’s and finally what kind of emotion that belief would produce. For every belief that is false, delusional, accepted from someone else and produces a negative emotion, then write a new positive one and accept it into your belief system with a strong positive emotion. Read your new list daily. Especially first thing in the morning and the just before you fall asleep when your mind is most pliable to new beliefs. Watch your thoughts change.

Takeaway

You can't think yourself to greatness but with a solid positive core belief system you can accomplish anything you want. Follow #6 above and create a new skill which will manifest in a change in your thinking and the result will be a new you!

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6 Tips on Editing Thinking

Ever wish you could just edit your mind like you edit you documents on your computer? Make your mind produce thoughts you like? Have you ever pondered why you say some of the things you say unintentionally, think the strange thoughts, act in a way that are inappropriate with who you are, respond incorrectly to the situations, or why you are just uncomfortable in your own skin? Do you wish that you could just edit your mind and make it produce thoughts you like?

Do you ever question if thoughts is sabotage your identity, your careers, relationships, or fulfillment as well as your future successes? If your answer is yes or sometimes, there is a strong possibility your identity and how you function in life is caused by your mind script.

You are so connected to your thoughts that you often think your thoughts are the core of your identity. But while your thoughts are undeniably connected to you, your true relationship with your thoughts is much more complicated than that. The truth is ... it is not your thoughts which drive your identity and life it is your mind script.

Tracing the roots of your thoughts to their deepest layers of your mind can be extremely beneficial and can help you more compassionate toward yourself and why you think the way you do.  The origination of your thoughts could help you to deal with anxieties, phobias and neuroses.

Yet focusing too much on your thoughts, where they come from and your need to control them (especially the disturbing ones), can throw you off in your search for the root of your identity. In fact, the more you focus on your thoughts for the answer, the more you do not find the answer and distance yourself from you. Over focusing on them does not give thoughts more legitimacy, influence and solidity. Believe it or not, your thoughts do not over rule your emotions and actions.

What drives your identity?

Do you feel like everything that you say and do is predetermined? You are normal if you think that way. Your thoughts are not the driver of your identity but only the passenger. Your thoughts are just a part of the big picture ...  they are more like the tip of the iceberg. Thoughts are only the by-product of the script that is written deep within your mind as you grow up and form an identity. The truth is your conscious mind can only believe, do, feel, react, or think as a result of what is written in your mind script. Nothing more and nothing less.  Meaning you or your identity is only a manifestation of your mind script.

What is mind script?

Mind script, also termed mind code, starts being written at the time your brain activates before you are born. Once activated, your brain records your history. This recording ability is called memory. Memory or the recording of your history is one small aspect of your total brain function. Unknown to you, in another compartment of your brain, mind script is being written.

Mind script? What is that? Even though you think your thoughts are created by you and you are in control of them, you really are not. Sometimes your thoughts seem to be completely out of control, and you feel like you are just tagging along for the ride. You mind script is data collected by your mind throughout all your experiences in your life and imprinting them on your subconscious mind. This data is used to form your core beliefs, messages you form about yourself from your experiences. It is your core beliefs that supply content for you inner voice, which can be critical or supportive. Then it is the flavor and perception of your inner voice that produces you thoughts. It is essence of your thoughts then governs whether your emotions and actions are motivating or self-limiting and self-defeating. No one sees this process until your script is revealed in your emotions and behaviors which others see.  

Mind script is the result of ongoing imprinting and embedding of life data which is gathered from every experience you have. This data is a systematic collection of all your beliefs formed about yourself, others and the world. Mind script also records all your biases, doubts, expectations, fears, instructions, likes, dislikes, messages, procedures, promises, regulations and rules. The embedded data develops into a script, a written code that constantly runs silently in the background, deep within your subconscious mind and govern who and how you will be. Simply it governs your identity. This script or step by step operating code manages, determines and influences who you are, what you say, how you react … meaning it is the script which controls and determines your identity.

How does mind script express itself in your life?

Your mind script expresses itself eventually through your beliefs, and it is your beliefs which influence your thoughts directly. Then indirectly your behaviors, emotions and reactions form from your thoughts.

How does it happen?

Let’s take it one step at a time. It is your mind script or mind code that becomes the data base or foundation for the development of your identity. Your code directly influences how your core beliefs will be formed. At that point, it is your core beliefs which send content (negative or positive, good or evil, right or wrong, doubts or positive information, etc.) to your inner voice in your head. The flavor of the content of your core beliefs governs whether you have an inner voice that is critical or supportive. It is your inner voice that defines the type of thoughts you think. The essence of your thoughts then governs whether your emotions and actions are motivating or self-limiting and self-defeating. It is your emotions and behaviors which others see.  

6 Tips on How to Edit Your Thinking


1. List all the beliefs you have about yourself. 

2. Recognize which of your beliefs about yourself are beneficial and which are not beneficial.

3. Make a mark next to the core beliefs you want to change. 

4. Edit the content by writing a new core beliefs. 

5. Say each one out loud with emotion 

6. Repeat your new list 2 times a day for 67 days. First time when you first wake up and 2nd time 
    just before you close your eyes to go to sleep.

In changing your core beliefs, your brain automatically rewrite its script. Once the script is changed, your thinking will alter and finally down the road your identity will change.

Takeaway

It is your mind script which is the root and true predictor of your identity. So what you do, how you outwardly display, feel, say, think, and react to, is always a manifestation of your mind script or mind code in the end.

So when dark thoughts arise, recognize them, grab them by the tail, and follow the thoughts back from your inner voice to the core belief where they originated. 

Don't let your script be the master of your identity. Be the architect of your script, and you will be the master of your identity. Your identity is not rigid or unchangeable. In fact it is flexible. Take back your ability to change.

If you need more help in rewriting your mind script in order to remove negative, self-limiting and self-sabotaging thinking, be brave and reach out. Don’t let your mind script destroy your ability to get what you want out of life. 

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4 Tips on Clearing Resentments

Many people have been scared emotionally and developed dis-trustfulness toward others. We all have been bullied, harassed, intimidated, and teased or overtly by physical harmed. Prejudice and meanness toward another is prevalent throughout our society and reoccur through all age groups.

It is a normal course over time feel cheated, betrayed, humiliated, hurt or wronged in a relationship gone wrong. Wanting some type of repayment, get even or revenge is also normal. This process is called resentment.

So let get real about relationships. Are you having relationship difficulties? Do you have difficulty trusting people you are in a relationship with? Do you find yourself unable to emotionally invest in your relationships but you don't know why. There is a possibility that the reason maybe that you have been holding onto resentments from past hurtful relationships for years or maybe even from your childhood that directly impact your ability to invest into relationships.

How resentments affect relationships

What is a resentment? 

We all have gone through situations in our lives where we had been taken advantage of, felt cheated, betrayed, humiliated, hurt, or wronged in some way. One of the most damaging feelings we carry that block our growth and success is resentments. As a human being we hold ill feelings toward other who we felt wronged us even against ourselves. For the most part we are not even aware of the baggage that we carry from our past events. 

The definition of a resentment is an ill will, ill feelings or ill thoughts, even an ill wish that are formed from an experienced where we felt wronged. We carry these wrongs subconsciously as a result of life events that are real or imagined. These wrongs are formed as a reaction to a life experience where we have perceived to have wronged someone or self and/or think someone has wronged us in one way or another. 

A resentment can cause many intense, reactive emotions such as anger, depression, disappointment, fear, hostility, panic, rage or regret which festers in the subconscious without conscious awareness for which we are not mindful of in the moment. Resentments have a very strong influence on how we relate to ourselves; how we think about others and most of all our behavior. These ill feelings affect the way we allow ourselves to perform in life. Thoughts such as: “I do not deserve anything because of what I have done” or “I am nothing because what was done to me.” This type of thinking eventually becomes a subconscious barrier to our accepting good things and success in our life. 

How do we get them?

You get them in experience you have everyday situations. Resentment form from an unusual high emotional attachment and involvement with another person and situation.  Situations such as relationship breakups, criticism, infidelity, disconnectedness, deep disappointment with another, divorce, embarrassment, and unrequited love……

Why are resentments so important to how we function in relationships?

Resentment can harm you. Resentment can cause you to disconnect from yourself and turn into self-hate. Resentment takes so much energy subconsciously to hold onto that it depletes your personal energy. On all levels, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Resentment can cause you to not trust others and even yourself. They can cause you to form negative core beliefs and self-limiting thoughts that turn into self-sabotaging behavior.

4 Tips on Removing Resentments 

1. Recognize all the wrongs you remember done to you or you feel you have done to yourself and           make a list of them.

2. Identify which are the most important or might have greatest impact on you. Rank them in order         from most hurtful to least.

3. Evaluate each one to whether they are real or imagined. Over           time, much of what you remember diluted in content but fester         in emotional intensity.

4. Lastly get honest and ask yourself:

a) What do you perceive is the benefit for to hanging onto each 
     one of your resentments?

b) What do you want to happen, outcome that you want to before          you are willing to let go?

c) What realistically can you do today about each one?

d) Do you accept yourself, and can you forgive (stop holding onto        it) yourself and then release (don’t live in the past) old wrongs.

1 Quick Way to Remove Resentments from being a Barrier

Resentments are subconscious baggage that keeps you down without your permission.  Resentments are very pervasive and troubling to you. Resentment require a tremendous amount of energy to remain alive.

To make a positive change in your life you have to 1) recognize the baggage that is weighing you down unknowing and 2) that is consuming all your mental, emotional, physical or spiritual energy. You counter it by opening and searching your mind, identifying all your old hurts (major and minor) and putting them in real time but writing them down on paper. 

Take Away

What could be hurting you the most could be beliefs that you have formed about relationships over time that determine how you function in your relationships? You could be unaware of issues like loyalty, trust, and connectedness could be more important than you realize. 

I am willing to bet that if you are reading this article, you already have a strong suspicion that you are carrying old unresolved wrongs about relationships. If you said “yes” so much of was stated above is true for you, so you need to begin to free yourself for all your old resentment baggage in order for you to have successful relationships. 

So take ownership of yourself by investing in who you are at this moment. Learn about your beliefs you carry about relationships. Remember you can't be affected by something that you are not holding onto.  So start to make a positive change by discovery more about your beliefs and resentments you hold onto about relationships.  

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4 Tips on Hacking Your Mind for Positive Results

What are you saying to yourself?

You are probably experiencing negative thinking on a daily basis. Some days it is mild and on other days it is more severe. Is your negative thinking limiting you?

Most negative thinking is an attempt block or avoid negative thinking by initiating “if only thinking”. If only thinking is an attempt to project into the future and stay out of your present. You start in this style of thinking to avoid having to make decisions in the moment. Otherwise meaning this type of thinking is an advance way of second guessing yourself and what is happening in your life. An advantage of if only thinking is that it keeps you out of the moment, away from negative thoughts, stops your feelings and gets you into the future.

What is “If Only Thinking”?

To help you understand better and become more mindful of such thinking, here is a definition. Basically the definition “if only thinking” is thinking that projects you into the future where you will get something or someone you want (because you are not getting it now) and produce an action (happiness, fulfillment or success).

So how does “if only thinking” work in your mind

Say you are in a situation, relationship or job where you are not getting you what you want and possibly unhappy. You have to make a decision of what you want, to do or feel. To avoid it you make a false intention to yourself, like “if I only would get X (could be something or someone) then I would be the happiest person in the world.” You work very hard to get that something or someone in your life.  You actually do work hard and get X. Once you get X you find out that it does not automatically change your situation, your feelings, your behavior or situation. You realize is nothing changed like you expected. At the same time you are told by someone close to you, “well you are so lucky that you got X, you should be the happiest you have ever been?” Inside yourself, you know the answer is “No, I am not”.

At that point your “if only thinking” kicks in again and your mind feeds you another false proposition, if you got Y, then you would attain the real answer. Now you really over expect and quietly bet on Y being the answer. Once more you work very hard to achieve Y, and you do achieve Y. But again you discover Y does not fulfill your inner need or expectation.

Since Y is not the answer and extreme disappointed sets in. Your mind then searches wildly into a possible future scenario. Amazingly your mind comes up with another false scheme. Suddenly you know that X and Y were not the real answer but now, for sure, Z is what will make you will make you content, peaceful, gratified and prosperous. You put in all the effort you can muster up and accomplish Z. The result is having Z is still not your answer. You remain unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled.

Without answer your mind consequently continues on and on in this type of diluted thinking cycle. Meanwhile you are totally losing and missing what is in front of you in the moment.

What if you could hack into your thoughts?

Hacking is the art of being able to break into something. For the purpose of this article Hacking is the skill of breaking into your thinking source code.

4 Tips on Hacking your Mind for Positive Results

Is it possible? Yes it is. In order to hack into your own thoughts first you need to stop doing what you are doing. Get in a comfortable position and take two deep breaths (all the way in and exhale completely). By stopping all distractions you will be able to increase your ability to focus and get into harmony with your thoughts. As long as you are inattentive to your thoughts, taking your thoughts for granted and as the truth, then you cannot help but be swallowed up by the diluted thinking that your answers are in the future and not in the moment.

1. Create a new mindset

Do not take your thoughts for granted or believe that you are powerless to change them. 

You have the ability to change your thoughts once you know if the focus of your thoughts are mainly centered on your past, your moment or your future. The most power way to change your thoughts is to change your mindset.

2. Don't invest into false possibilities

Don't be swayed into a false beliefs or untrue possibilities which cause you to over expect. 99% of all predicting thoughts of what you think might happen in the future (good or bad) do not come true. You're predicting thoughts are not true reflection of what will happen in the future and the positive outcomes you want.

The best way to hack into your own thinking and not coming swayed by this type of thinking is to not take your thinking personally. Once you are depersonalized from your thinking you can be more efficient in hacking and changing your thinking. You do this by imagining you are viewing your thinking by being another person looking in on your own mind. “If only thinking” can be so real, enticing and alluring that you get into a false sense of excitement, possibility and gratification. Unfortunately, none of the promises from this form of thinking ever come true.

3. Be real, not emotionally connected

Now view your thoughts from an impersonal mindset. It will allow you to be able to step back mentally with more objectiveness and less emotional charge tied to your thinking. Once you are less emotionally attached you will reduce the influence your thinking has over you.

Imagine your “if only thinking” has its own body and mind. Pretend this person is talking to you and attempting to convince you “if only you would (buy, feel, do….) then your life would be perfect”. Once you have this objectiveness set up in your mind, then spend a day talking to this person. Guaranteed you will want to completely separate yourself from this person (a.k.a. the thinking) by the end of the day because nothing that this person is saying ever comes true.

“If only thinking” has far less impact on your actions, emotions, mindset or future outcomes than you would like to think. If you do not allow it to have power it won’t. If you're willing to be objective and monitor the content of all your thoughts, you will be able to successfully hack into your thinking, shut down the “if only thinking” and negative thoughts as well as gain clarity of all the good things in life in the moment. Having gratitude for what you have in the moment is always better and healthier than betting on a prediction that will never happen.

4. Gain Mindfulness

Lastly, you should begin the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is being able to stay focused on what is occurring in the moment. Mindfulness is having no judgment, no thoughts and no meaning. It’s simply focusing in the moment.  

Simply focus on the moment. Now is all you truly have. Don’t lose it. Embrace it.  

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Be with Your Thoughts or Electrocute Yourself, which would you pick?

A recent research study found that “we'd rather electrocute ourselves than be alone with our thoughts”.

OMG, I have been writing for years about changing your life through journaling, mediation (Me Time) or just deep breathing for only 5 to 10 minutes with yourself a day, without any external distracted or stimulation.   I require that each client spend time with themselves without a book, computer, phone, television, tablet or radio. I asked that they have nothing to stare at or take away their focus on during that time. The objective was to improve their relationship with themselves, reduce stress and improve brain function.

I cannot tell you how many of my clients cannot or had difficulty completing this simple task. Even though spending just 5 minutes a day with themselves has been proven to improve their life and health (mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually) as well as release stresses they were holding onto, people can’t seem to complete even a few minutes. The excuses I hear from my clients are “Oh I forgot”, “I am too busy, but I meant to”, “I tried, but just I couldn't focus”, I couldn't find any time”, or “I get too anxious”.

With those clients that have a history of being bullied, harassed, abused or traumatized when asked if they did their 5 minutes I am told “I didn't like the thoughts that went through my head”, “I could not stop my thoughts long enough to focus just on my breathing as you asked me to do. It felt wrong”, “While I was doing it a negative thought jump into my head and I could not get rid of it once I stopped meditating” and “Truthfully I can’t stand to be with me. I do not think I deserve it”.

The overall underlying messages I get from my clients are basically that being with their own thoughts or being in their own skin is uncomfortable. Above all alone or quiet time should be avoided at all cost. When alone most of them have either a TV running somewhere in the house or music playing to fill their head with distraction.

The fundamental human question is have we lost the ability to be alone with our own thoughts?

Proof is in the Study

I found an article in the Washington Post about a study done by Timothy Wilson, a psychologist at the University of Virginia and lead author of the study. This article reported on a study about being alone with your thoughts vs getting electrocuted, yes you read correctly, electrocuted.  The study was simple, all the participants had to do was enter an empty room, sit down, and think for six to 15 minutes. The only requirement was that the participants had to be in the room without a cellphone, a book, or a television screen to stare at. The reporter from the Washington Post quoted Dr. Wilson as saying “The assignment quickly became too much for the participants to handle. In fact, even when the individuals were given time to "prepare" for their time alone — meaning that they were able to plan what they would think about during their moments of solitude — the participants still found the task hard to complete.” “People didn't like it much being alone with themselves and their thoughts."

So the researchers decided to make the study a little harder. Each participant was given an option of doing something else while in the room alone, besides just thinking. What the researchers came up with wasn't exactly pleasant. Instead of just sitting sit and alone, participants were now allowed to electrocute themselves as many times as they liked with a device containing a 9 volt battery. Still, for many, such an option wouldn't seem desirable.

But the study found that most participants decided they would rather shock themselves on an average of seven times during their time in the room and sit in solitude and think. An interesting facet in this study was that one male participant in the study “shocked himself 190 times over a period of 15 minutes” just so he didn't have to be alone with his thoughts. 

My Take on the Study 

When reading this article and study I discovered that participants, both men and women would rather spend their time stimulated by outside stimuli, even if it was an electrical shock from 9 volt battery, than to spend quiet time with only their thoughts. Why is that? I believe that most people, when forced to sit without external stimulation, have thoughts that they cannot accept. We as a society have been constantly inundated with outside stimulation, good and bad, for so long that we don’t understand how to just be quiet with our thoughts. Gone are the days of sitting on the front porch just being.

Other Reasons

      1. Time

More and more people do not have the time to complete even the simplest tasks in a day. You have to clean the house, care for kids, interact with friends and family, prepare meals, work, etc…. Being busy and fulfilling others expectation has become the standard in most people’s lives. Everyone races from one task to another without a thought or hesitation. No wonder stress and stress related illnesses are so rampant and the number one focus is on performance and not being with self. Life has become a moving grindstone that you can’t stop.

2. Stimulation

Our society is becoming addicted to being stimulated all of the time. Many people would rather be stimulated by drugs, alcohol, and all electronic devices and let’s not forget social media rather than being with themselves. 

Conclusion

This study supports what I been saying in my articles for many years about thought addiction and the inner critic. More people than we thought have difficulty with the thoughts that run through their heads. Let’s just simply get back to basics and improve the relationship with our thoughts, basically ourselves. With practice the act of spending time with ourselves will becomes easier and more enjoyable. Make more time in your schedule for you.

(The study was conducted by Timothy Wilson was published in Science Magazine, 2014)

http://www.appy-geek.com/Web/ArticleWeb.aspx?regionid=1&articleid=25485335&m=d 

http://www.theverge.com/2014/7/4/5870573/rather-electrocute-ourselves-than-be-alone-with-thoughts 

http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2014-07/uov-dsi063014.php

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2014/07/03/most-men-would-rather-shock-themselves-than-be-alone-with-their-thoughts/

Changing Lives One Person at a Time

Let me get right to the point…. 

I have been coaching a man who has lost everything. He lost his business, his marriage, his kids, his home, friends, support and himself. He was a successful businessman with his own company, wealthy and happy in his marriage. Then suddenly it was all gone. Why?

With the death of his father he started to experiencing negative self-limiting and self-defeating thoughts. No matter what he tried he could not turn off his negative thoughts. He kept hearing his father's voice from his childhood stating "you're stupid, you're a loser, you can't make a good decision, you're not good enough, you don't deserve happiness or success and you will always be a failure in everything you do." He surrendered to his intrusive and disturbing thoughts and he wrote himself off. He began to feel like a stranger even to himself . He even felt very uncomfortable in his own skin. He ran out of energy to fight for himself so he finally gave up.

His mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health declined rapidly.  He was plagued with anxiety, fear, worry and constant negative thoughts. A psychiatrist put him on benzodiazepines and lost all hope.

Change

Then he learned something that changed his life forever. He was shown a secret “method” that gave him the key that unlock his mind code. He discovered that his father's constant criticism and berating was accepted by him and converted into beliefs that he had about himself. It was these beliefs that were causing causing all his problems.

Secret

The secret is called “30 Day Mind Challenge”, and with the program he was able to unlock the negative code that was limiting him. With just shifting his code to positive, he was able to achieve a new found confidence and regain happiness, success and unbound energy along with good health. With help of an old friend he open his business and is on his way to flourishing again. 

How Does that Happen?

See at birth and as we grow up, we all become 'coded'. Our "mind code" forms with every life event we experience - when triggered – subconsciously our code surfaces into our conscious. Our mind code then influences how we act, think, and feel. Our code can limit our efforts to be happy and succeed.

When something happens in life our mind code already knows the answer and therefore dictates your reactions.  All you need to do is to 'decode' these messages that don't serve. Some of our coded messages embedded in our subconscious are self-limiting and self-defeating. The positive thing is that you can change and shift negative coded messages to positive if given the tools to do so. 

Understand if you feel you are too limited, defective, not good enough or damaged to achieve what you want in life, you are NOT alone. It is possible to change. 

Understand there is nothing wrong with your “hardware”. It is your “software” that is faulty and caused you to be negatively coded. It is not your fault. Re-code your software and change your life.

Find out more about the 30 Day Challenge signature program at http://www.makingapositivechange.com/  

                                           

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Positive Change: How to get the brain to change the way it works

Let's face it … life can be disappointing if you are not happy with the way you think, act, feel or react.

It takes an incredible amount of energy to get up every morning and go through an entire day with someone you don't like … You! This would explain why you feel tired all the time.

It is really hard to cope with not wanting to live in your own life, and self-judgment will creep in.

Negative thoughts over take your mind, and you find yourself looping constantly through a cycle of thoughts: “If only I had … I should have … I could have...I am not good enough."  

Looping negative thoughts can cause a thought addiction and become the gateway into other addictions.

It can be overwhelming to always have a sense of separation from yourself or having feelings of emptiness in life.

Trust me, I know how you feel.

My entire life I was consumed with worry, fear and anxiety.  I was so unhappy with my life. My total focus was on how I was not performing up to expectations. While always worrying about what might happen in the future, I lost the good things occurring in the present moment.

I felt out of control and disappointed with me. I didn't know why.

The cloud over my head just wouldn't go away.

Then, I found out about mental coding. I’m not talking about the computer type of source code, but rather the type of code which controlled my brain.

In the background of everyone's mind, there is code running. You might say this code is more like rules, regulations or laws that govern how a person will act, think or feel.

I researched this idea, but I did not find much. However, I did find a real life example through an unrelated experience.

I was working with a Web Developer, and there were two large monitors in front of me. On one monitor, the computer source code for my new website was displayed. The other monitor displayed the actual website as it would be seen on the Internet. The source code told the computer what to display on the other monitor down to the smallest detail. When the Web Developer would change a symbol on the source code monitor, the other monitor would instantly change, too. This was just like looking at the conscious and the subconscious mind, and I gained clarity on how the brain responds in the same way.

Is it possible that the brain’s code regulates actions, thoughts and feelings?

Actually, the brain does work by the same procedure. The code running in our subconscious (background) determines and influences how we function in our daily activities (foreground).

Our brain code is written throughout our whole life without our even being aware it is happening. Our beliefs, values, expectations, ethics, morals, rules, standards ... these rules (or as I see it, our personal philosophy) manifests in our reactions.

I have developed a new method to help you recognize your code, determine whether it is good  motivating code or bad limiting code, then how to rewrite the code according to your own design. This works extremely well. Change your code, and you change your world … inside and out.

So there you have it!  Read my blog on "Searching for Positive Change" below, and discover 5 tips to help you accomplish a shift in your mental code.

If you have any questions, leave me a comment below.

And if you know anyone else who is always complaining about being tired, please send them a link to this post. You might just help change their lives!