Showing posts with label make a positive change. Show all posts
Showing posts with label make a positive change. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Happy Holiday Season To Everyone



I want to wish all who follow my blog a Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and a Happy New Year.

I really appreciate all who have followed, read and participated by commenting on my blogs. With all of you this blog would not be as successful as it has been this year - 2014.

2015 will be the year for all to be the authentic you and exist in the moment. The moment is all we have. Cannot fix the past and what has happened, Cannot predict the future. Don't stress you self thinking you do do either. Relax and live in the moment because it will be gone in a second. 

You deserve to be the you that you want to be and create the life you want. Strive to be balanced, fulfilled, happy, and successful in 2015!!!!!

                                  
  MAKE a POSITIVE CHANGE in you starting in the New Year
 

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Why is Accountability So Important





There are many differences between life coaching and therapy. One of those differences is the issue of accountability. In life coaching the client is believed to have the answers to his or her problems are within them and not in the knowledge of the therapist.  A good life coach is effective by asking good questions which helps the client come up with his or her right answers.

A way to achieve accountability is through customized writing assignments that the client is responsible for. The client must follow through and complete assignments before next appointment.

As a Life Coach I work very hard to fit specific questions to my clients. If my questions are not good then the client will not come up with his or her right answers and the forward process will stall. In order to be on the same page as my clients, I sometimes have to give them an assignment to define a word. Defining words is important because everyone’s definitions varies in one form or another. So to help him or her progress, I feel I need to work off my client’s definition and not my definition.

Clients come up with some of his or her own great definitions with accurate perception. Here is an example of a great definition done on a word by one of my clients on a very important concept. I think this word we fight with and affects all of us in our daily lives. That word is accountability.

So what is accountability? Good question. I found this particular definition to be interesting with the way it was expressed and I hope will enlighten many more people.

The exact question to the client was:

“What does it mean to be accountable?”

The client answered the question simply in her own way.


“Accountability to me is living up to a standard moral code that’s ingrained in my subconscious mind from nature not nurture. It is the acknowledgement and assumption of responsibility for my actions. Accountability is a system of integrity that suppresses impulsiveness. It means that I am liable for my own destiny and culpable for the wrong decisions. Accountability and responsibility are guidelines for progress as I evolve spiritually, morally and mentally. It is doing what is right no matter how unfamiliar or hard it is to do.”

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Thursday, July 10, 2014

4 Tips to Help You Shift a Negative Mindset



Mindset is a concept that is talked a lot about in the helping profession lately. Funny thing about mindset is that everyone has one. In fact everyone has many mindsets and trade back and forth throughout the day.

What is a Mindset?

Simply a mindset is a fixed mental attitude. Mindsets come in all sorts of types and styles. A mindset can be fluid, or rigid. A mindset can be comfortable belief or an uncomfortable mental habit. It can be positive or judgmental of yourself or others.

Mindset can be a barrier

Hanging onto old mindsets can create many physical and mental problems, such as anxiety, blame, bitterness, fear, negativity, physical pain, resentments, stress, shame, sleeplessness and worry. Old mindsets can keep you boxed into old prejudice attitudes and thoughts.

Triggers affect your Mindset

Old mindsets can be triggered by situations. They can also be activated by the actions, comments or beliefs of others.  Over time a mindset results in poor physical health as well as a decrease in our mental and emotional health and performance. A mindset simply is a deep seated attitude based on old perceptions, beliefs or prejudices that were told, taught or forced on us. One thing clear is that a mindset is generally another person's expectations or bias. Growing up in my generation, it was taught to take others mindsets, such as parents, teachers, coaches, policemen, etc., with blind faith. Never to ask questions. Functioning in life under another person's mindset does not work and causes deep feelings of unhappiness, disappointment and a feeling of being trapped. 

4 Tips to Help You Shift an Old Mindset to Positive

1. Stop ruminating by literally stopping what you are doing and take 4 deep breaths. During those 4 breathes, focus on the air coming in to your lungs and then being released. 

2. Reclaim your personal authority by forming a new positive mindset to replace the negative attitude and replace it with a positive mindset. 

3. Create a new belief to support and validate your newly formed mindset. 

4. Conscious take ownership of the new mindset by making a promise to accept it. 

After Thoughts

You can break away from old destructive mindsets successfully. You have the power. Start today and forge your own path. You can get what you want if you follow the 4 steps above. 



                                     


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Sunday, July 14, 2013

3 Ways to Benefit from Your Mistakes



Have you ever made a mistake? Everyone has. Yet after making mistakes you become so frightened or apprehensive to make another mistake for fear of what might happen? It also causes you to second guess everything you do after that point.

Society has become so performance orientated and focused that many shy away from risking new things or learning new skills and causes you to stay with only familiar and comfortable things even it they are bad for you. You may become so afraid of making a mistake that you just don't venture into new experiences and keep you in a rut. In fact you may isolate yourself from experiences to stop any future possibility of making another mistake.
   
Is not getting involved with life a mistake also?

The more afraid you are of making a mistake, the less willing you will be of taking a risk, the more restricted you are, you become rigid and end up stuck. You actually create a pattern that can cause you to be less involved with other people, situations and you learn less. If you shy away from trying new things or not taking risks, you deprive your Soul of the nutriments needed to grow and thrive.

Could your mistakes be positive?

Making a mistake is normal part of life. No one is perfect. Making a mistake can be very positive. If you don’t make a mistake when you attempt something new then how do you learn. Each different experience, task or situation should bring something beneficial to your character.

Remember all the times growing up when you were so afraid to join in playing with others kids for fear of being embarrassed, ridiculed for not performing as well as others or just plain not being good enough. Look at all you lost out on. Don’t let that happen now. Accept and embrace your mistakes for what they can bring to your life.

Therefore don't let past incidents of mistakes determine who you are as a person or a barrier to your future. We all make mistakes. Without mistakes there is no way you can learn or make positive changes. If you are always right and do everything perfectly then you have no reason to get out of bed. Isn't that sad? So you cannot allow mistakes to define who you are.

3 Ways to Benefit from a Mistake

Remind yourself every time you make a mistake to ask yourself these three questions.

  1. What did I learn?

       2. What can I do differently next time?

       3. How did this make me better as a person?

Once you get your answers you will see your lessons clearly and your Soul will have fuel to keep on growing.

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Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Imagination is the Power to Success


"All change stems from our imagination. Imagination is capable of turning mind energy into a vision and success."  --Dr Bill

“How do I change my life in a positive way?”

Simply use your imagination. Imagination is one of our most powerful tools available to you.  Imagination is the one thing within you, as a human, that gives you the amazing ability to "create" anything you want.  Think about it.  Your imagination can truly assist us in creating something new? Everything that you has been created in the world has stemmed from the seed in someone's imagination. Everyone has this ability.

How to Change?

In order to access our imagination we have to spend time with our self. 

Find a peaceful environment, get quiet, be calm, and ask for guidance with or inspiration about a specific desire or idea.
  
Focus on the desire or idea and say it aloud, then remain quiet and calm...and notice the flow of thoughts that come to mind.  

Listen and hear the answers in your head.  

Write down all the answers. Do not discount or rationalize any thoughts that come to mind. 

Then, rest in the faith that our imagination generates additional ideas and solutions. Know that imagination possesses all the energy needed to continue generating more ideas and solutions on the way to accomplishing success in our lives. 

Believe, have faith and harvest the rewards. The more you practice the easier success will come and our imagination will open to its abundance.


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Saturday, June 29, 2013

Affirm Your Soul



We all need to enjoy a bit of freedom and relaxation. This beautiful video does just that. Please enjoy this video and affirm your spirit.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Addiction and Self Love

The reason that people become addicted to substances, behaviors, thoughts or emotions is because they do not love yourself fully. 

If you are seeking change or healing through a substance, a behavior, a thought, or a feeling to alter who you are, you are searching in the wrong place. "I just do not like myself", "I want to be different" is something I hear from people all the time. The only way you change and heal yourself is from within not from something or someone else on the outside.

Improve the relationship with self and learn the good things about you rather than comparing yourself to others. Self is all you have. 

If you do not love yourself you will not do anything positive for yourself. Start a new relationship with self. Self love is your answer.

Learn more on the relationship between Addiction and Trauma

                                            

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Sunday, January 27, 2013

10 Guidelines for a Healthier Body and Mind

One of the good aspects of Life coaching is that I get to work with a person as a whole. I mean every aspects of them. Not only do I assist a client to look at his or her issues, intentions, goals, barriers, relationships, performance skills but also career, health and exercise as well as nutrition because they work together to make a life. A person cannot be separated into parts, but as a whole system. If you just work on one aspect then some other aspect of his or her life is out of balance.

So in this blog, I would like to address healthy nutrition and shift into a healthier mindset. With a world or fast food, processed food and larger than life portions at restaurants, everyone is concerned about their weight and health.

Here are some useful guidelines for healthy eating and helping your body make a positive change. These suggestions can increase your awareness in the area of nutrition and if followed, they can better your physical and mental life.

1. Spicy Food

Want to wake up your metabolism. Include chilies, and hot peppers (Cherry, Anaheim, Jalapeno, etc.) in menu and your cooking. Any type of pepper containing Capsaicin. Capsaicin naturally melts fat cells in your body. Spicy foods will naturally cause you to eat less.

2. Detoxing Water Drinks 

No matter how “clean” of a life a you lead, eating healthy, frequent exercise, good sleep, and regular stress relief, a body is likely to show evidence of accumulated toxicity. Regular detoxing is extremely important to good health. Purifying drink waters can help your body to rid itself of some of these toxins, while also giving your body a chance to reset, repair and regroup.

Here is two suggestions that will help you to detox your body.

First is lemon water. First thing in the morning, heat up a 1/2 a cup of water and squeeze in a half a lemon. Drink and wait for a 1/2 hour before eating or drinking anything. One drop of hot sauce would enhance flavor. This will help detox the body.

Second is Ginger water. Cut finely a few slices of ginger (root) and place in with boiling water for about ten minutes and drink 1/2 of cup of the water is has cooled down. The pungent compounds found in ginger water boost your energy level. At the same time it purifies your body.
Wait 30 minute before drinking or eating anything else.

3. Get Plenty of Sleep

Put down your electronics...computer, tablet, and cell phone....as well as turn off the TV when you go to bed. It is recommended you get at least six to eight hours of sleep per night. Sleep benefits the body in many ways and breaks down unwanted weight fastest. US research studies has shown that every hour of sleep before midnight is worth 2 hours after midnight.

U.S. research studies found: During sleep, our metabolism is running at full throttle.

4. Cut Out Carbohydrates in the Evening

Cut out carbohydrate - rich foods such as potatoes products, bread, rice, pasta and bread sticks for dinner. The highest rate of fat burn is at night. So the more carbohydrates you eat after 4:00 pm the harder it is for your body to get rid of it. What would be better would be meals in the evenings are contain fish or lean meats with salad (with low salt and low fat salad dressings).
Think about giving up white flour and wheat products for your health. Current wheat seeds have been mutated and are one of the major contributors to obesity. Flour and wheat products are not the same as back in the 1960s and have more powerful damaging result on your body.

5. Stay Away from Processed Foods

Processed food are any food treated to preserve, enhance the flavor, lengthen its shelf life or change the texture, in such foods as processed meats, packaged baked goods, and frozen dinners. Processed food can cause weight gain quickly, increase high blood sugar, increase possibility for diabetes and heart disease.

Cooking from scratch at home can take longer but is so much healthier.

6. Cut Out Sugar

Stop eating sugar or sugar substitute products. These products cause the Adrenal glands to produce adrenaline to neutralize the ingested sugar. Sugar substitute products actually fake out the body. The body thinks it is getting a lot of sugar and produces a large amounts of adrenaline to counter act it. Since the body is left with the produced adrenaline, the body yearns for more food to reduce the surplus adrenaline. So avoid diet products. Diet products are not the answer to losing weight and can prompt your body to eat more. USDA research studies show that artificial sweeteners suppress metabolism and can trigger food cravings.

6. Adopt a No Dinner Day

Consider not eating one dinner once a week. Just drink only calorie-free drinks throughout the evening, such as mineral water or unsweetened tea or green tea. This will not only shed the pounds, but also slows down your aging process.  

7. Don't Miss Breakfast 

Don't skip breakfast under any circumstances.
Eating breakfast in the morning is good for your body and kicks up metabolism rate and burns calories over the entire day. 

8. Water is your Body's Best Friend

Water is your body's main chemical component and makes up 60% of your body weight. Every cell in a human's body needs water. 2/3 of body is consists of water, and it is the main component of human body. The brain consists 90% water. Water helps to keep fluid levels up without adding additives and restrains hunger. It also increases hydration and the energy consumption. Every day you lose water through your breath, sweat, urine and bowel movements. For your body to function properly, you must replenish its water supply. 

How much? For your body to function properly and health of your skin, you must replenish its water supply.  Suggestion is that you drink at least 1 gallon of water and eat food which contains water. You will burn around 100 calories extra just by drinking water.

Eating foods that have large volume of water and less calories, such as vegetables, soups and fruits will make the stomach fill full without adding fat.

9. Leave Snacks in the Snack Machines

Give up eating snacks between meals, especially if you are a diabetic. Nibbling from a snack machine daily or often increases your insulin level, which will inhibit fat loss.

10. Vigorous Daily Walking or Exercise

Walk, walk and walk some more. Walking daily for at least 30 to 45 minutes a day can influence your health positively, increase weight lose by raising metabolism rate, reduce stress and enhances mood by increasing endorphins in your brain. Your skin is an important route of elimination, and your body is capable of removing many toxins through your sweat. Vigorous walking and exercise can help your body to sweat more while also enhancing blood flow to remove toxins through your skin. 


If you adopt and follow all 10 guidelines above, your body will 

become healthier and strong as well as your mind. 

If you need help getting your body and mind healthier then visit my website home page at: http://www.MakingaPositiveChange.com  and download your FREE eBook today.


Also take the FREE mini mind challenge to see if you are a candidate for the 30 Day Challenge

The 30 Day Challenge is a self help product which can help you learn if you are your own barrier to being healthy and reverse it in ONE MONTH.


                                                 

Saturday, October 20, 2012

Positive Change is a Risk



Life experiences and the formed beliefs related to them have a tendency to cause a closing of the mind over time and dilutes clarity of thought. Don't get trapped in old beliefs that block attempts at success.

A positive change is not made by wondering what you could have done differently in the past or an intense need worry about how to fix what you did wrong or situations that went wrong. You making positive change is also not made by worrying what is to come in the future. Positive change can only be created and accomplished in the moment with clear thinking.

Many people spend their time projecting and preparing for what might happen in the future. Others center their attention on the past and lose his or her focus as well as drive. Meanwhile what is happening in the moment is totally lost.

To make a positive change requires taking a risk do new things which were thought to be impossible. Positive change is creating through risking new thought, envisioning what is wanted, and experiencing what the success of achieving the intention would feel like. Adopt a new mindset that everything is possible.

Life is truly fleeting. What is here right now will disappear in a flash and then we will wonder where it went. So create in the moment and strive for the intended positive change. Don't wait, life is ticking away.

Remember -
                              "Yesterday is just a memory,
                                   Today is the moment,
                                        Tomorrow is an enigma"