2 Quick Tips on Setting Up Boundaries

If you have ever been in therapy or life coaching you know how important personal boundaries are to have. Many do not understand or how to create boundaries. Unfortunately even when you learn them, putting them into action is another thing.

What are Boundaries?

Simply put, boundaries are like a "job description". With healthy boundaries you can ensure your personal safety and protection when you are with other people. Without boundaries you are vulnerable and unprotected. Others will think that they can do, make you do or say anything whatever to you and you will accept it. 

Basically boundaries are an invisible but a clear line between what you will do or not do, what you will allow and not allow,and what you will accept and not accept. Boundaries convey to others what your limits are. 

Believe it or not other people are happy when they know what your limits are. It helps them to know how to treat you.

6 Types of Boundaries

There are many different types of personal boundaries. Here are just a few:

Emotional

Mental

Physical 

Sexual

Spiritual

Environmental

If you don't have them what does that mean?

Sometimes the lack of boundaries is merely a sign of a deeper problem: confidence, esteem, feeling undeserving and unworthiness.

2 Quick Tips on Setting Up Boundaries

1. How you want to be treated.

Write a list of all the things you will not accept from others or do with as well as for other people in each of the type of boundaries mentioned above.

For example: "I will not accept you using anger toward me when you talk to me."

2. Set a Consequence

When you set a boundary be sure to attach a consequence. 

For example: If you talk to me like that I will walk away." 
Consequences tells other people what you will do if they break your personal boundaries. Be sure if you set up consequences, when they break them you follow through with the consequence.

After Thoughts

To be healthy in mind, body and spirit, you need to have strong positive personal boundaries. Boundaries help you to make positive changes in your life and know what you stand for.

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Acceptance is a Powerful Mindset for Positive Change

Let's look at the definition of acceptance. 

The definition of "accept" from a dictionary states: 

1. to receive willingly; ready for change;

2. to approve or give admittance; 

3. to come to terms with something: to acknowledge a fact or truth and come to terms with it; a situation; 

4. to tolerate something without protesting or attempting to change it.

Different Mindset

Another way to look at acceptance is that acceptance is the opposite of resistance. It is the ability to give in, not create a barrier. Acceptance is not the act of forgiveness. A person can forgive and not accept, or accept and not forgive. Accepting in many ways the belief that something is the fact and cannot be changed, like certain situations, events or people.

After Thoughts

I believe that acceptance is a willful act of opening to your self-truth and move forward in life. Acceptance can be seen as closing a door without resistance or resentment on a situation, event, person or something that cannot be changed and then open a new door and walking through it.

Want to Change?

Make a positive change today with the 30 Day Mind Changing Challenge. Take the Mini Challenge to see if you are ready to change your thoughts.